Self-hatred comes from believing there is a self

When you stop what is causing self-hatred. namely the belief in a self, there is no hatred to let go of.

When you stop what is causing self-hatred. namely the belief in being or having a self, there is no self-hatred. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

There is no way to survive as someone specific without physically, mentally, emotionally and energetically regularly taking something – for example food, point of view, love and power – from something or somebody that appears to be outside of you. Consequently everybody believing to be someone specific are afraid of not getting enough. And if they get it, they are afraid it will be taken from them – just like they took it from somebody else.

Most feel guilty about taking as much as possible for themselves at the expense of others. Some try to suppress this guilt with the pleasure, that comes from being acknowledged by society when you are good at taken very much from others – and others start looking for ways to improve themselves. They may try meditating, sharing and seeing everybody as equals in an attempt to purify the self, they believe to have. Yet they do not realise they are just exchanging one illusion with another.

As long as an alcoholic keeps drinking, there is no way of letting go of hangovers. But if the alcoholic stops doing, what causes the hangovers, which in physical terms is the consuming of alcohol, there is no need of letting go of hangovers, because they are not there any more.

The new state of mind, that they appear to obtain feels so much better for a while, but as nothing in the world last, neither does the experience of this new self as a better one. So they start hating it – just like they did the old one. Thus they look for new ways to let go of self-hatred.

When you do not believe to be someone at all, there is no self. Yet what is left is not a non-self or no self. What is left is that which always was there and always will be since it is formless and therefore endless, namely that which is one.

Yet there is only something to let go off, because you believe to have a self. If you do not believe to be someone specific, there is nothing to hate and nothing to let go off.


NOTE: This is article is part of hack #1.2 The world is make-believe.

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