Holding back to not ejaculate is just another physical manifestation – but without the physical thrill of it

No matter if you call it love or sex,those emotions will have aphysical manifestation.

No matter if you call it love or sex, those emotions will have a physical expression in a physical world. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

A leg is a physical organ, and it will remain so even if you deny using parts of it. Restricting it, however, will make it more rigid and it may wither, when not fully utilised.

Will a computer become anything else than that, just because you do not turn it on? No. Nothing has changed.

Will a flower seed become a carrot seed, if you plant it among carrots. No. You are fooling yourself!

Will the instincts that result in a hard penis, become anything else than what they are, if you try not to ejaculate. No. You are just avoiding the relief of going with the flow.

Trying to change or transcend something enhances the the belief that it is possible to be and have more than that which is one.

You may think that you will transcend to a higher level and become more spiritual when using tantra and similar techniques to not ejaculate. On the contrary. By denying the body the pleasure of letting go, you enhance the belief, that physicality is something and spirituality nothing.

Read more about tantra in Peace is all there is when you do not believe in something.

Whatever part of yourself or the world that you change or transform, what you seem to achieve is a replacement of one illusion with another. The world is make-believe. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The suppression of ejaculation is often done because it is imagined that by holding back the sperm, a spiritual transformation will take place. But spirituality does not need you to change anything. On the contrary. Spirituality undoes the foolish idea that change is possible. That which is you is no different from the formlessness of spirituality, and what does not have a form cannot be changed. It is, however, possible to believe so.

But the undoing of this belief has nothing to do with changing something. On the contrary, changes confirm the belief in not being formless but someone definitive. This also applies to transform what you believe to be via meditating, for example.

If you know, that which is you is spiritual, you know the physical world is not real. Hence you have no desire to change, transcend or transform anything in it. Nor are you are afraid of committing to the moment as it appears to be in a physical world and has an orgasm if that is what arises from it.

Sex is such a deep desire, that it must be an essential motivation for believing it is possible to be and have more than that which is one. Since it, therefore, is founded on that which is one, an orgasm should not be stopped but enjoyed as a positive confirmation of that which is one, so you can have the belief that it is possible to be and have more than that which is one undone.

There is no reason to be afraid of commitment to something in a physical world, as it is nothing but make-believe (read more about that here). Just like – within the context of such a world – there is no reason not to commit yourself to the ways of a game like Monopoly. It is all about taking everything from everybody but whatever you win or lose is not real. You will, therefore, neither be less physical or more spiritual by changing anything in the game.

Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Everything in the sea is wet, so it makes you or the protective cover you may be wearing wet. That is the nature of water. No degree of control will change that. If you do not want to be wet, you have to leave the water. It is as simple as that.

No matter in what way a physical appearance is changed, it remains physical. So if you do not want to be physical, you must leave the physical world, which is not done by doing or not doing something tangible, but by not believing that it is real. Period.

Nobody is forcing you to appear as if you are a limited physical being. Therefore, if you seem to be so, the conclusion must be that this is what you want. So why not honour your wish and give it your best shot.

Doing that, your orgasm is extended by the empty breath* that shakes your body from top to toe, so you feel revitalised and not emptied after ejaculation. As long as you have pursued your physical desire in a physical and horny way, it does not matter if the orgasm is triggered by a fantasy or something apparently real.

See hack #4.3 To be a basic self is to be good enough about being physical.

To put it another way, the avoidance of a physical orgasm does not make you more spiritual. Actually, this idea goes against spirituality because it is formless and therefore endless, so it is not possible to be more or less than spiritual. Furthermore, spirituality is that which is one and since it takes more than one to avoid or exclude something you are nothing when doing so there is not something outside of that which is one.

And as everything comes in pairs, not being exclusive, purity is automatically included in sexual lust, surrender in power strivings, humility in selfishness, indifference in greed, kindness in envy, calmness in anger and peace in rage.

See hack #3.2 Inclusiveness is pure bliss about not being exclusive and thus automatically inclusive.

Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

APPENDIX ABOUT SEX AND A STATE OF NOT-KNOWING**
In a state of not-knowing** you can more or less do what you are used to, but having sex, for example, you may not have an orgasm because everything is fine as it is so there is no need for something extra sensational.

It does not work the other way around. Exercising tantra* sex and whatnot to suppress orgasm will not bring about a state of not-knowing. Anyway, those doing that do not want it. They are not into going with the flow but to be in control and that is not possible in a state of not-knowing.

For that reason, one could say it is hazardous to enter a state of not-knowing.** The brain is still working in the background, but as the self, it has created to experience its thought construction, making up a tangible world, cannot be reached its whole system falls apart. As things, therefore, tends to happen in the disordered way of a dream, your cats may not get their breakfast.

But since a state of not-knowing cannot last for more than 20 minutes, 45 at most,* if you want to be able to return to the consciousness of being someone definitive, and since you come back as the basic self, your cats will soon get a terrific breakfast.

You can read about the happy life of the basic self in hack #4.2 The basic self versus the special one.

And being a basic self, sex will bring about a terrific orgasm. You will really enjoy the physical thrill of it. Especially, as already said in the above, the empty breath will go through the body and shake every part of it from the bottom up, so you feel revitalised and not emptied after an ejaculation.


*) The empty breath you can read more about in

**) All the duality hacks bring about a state of not-knowing. Check the below hacks for a more detailed description about that


NOTE: This article is part of hack #1.2 You cannot change the world, but you can change your perception of it.

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