The YOU finger and the three ME fingers

When you use the YOU finger to point somebody out as bad, the three ME fingers points to back to yourself. The animation is grabbed from the web.

When you use the YOU finger to point out somebody as bad, the three ME fingers point back to yourself. It may not be to tell you, that you are bad, but to look at what it does to you when you perceive somebody to be bad. It could also be that, even though you have never done bad things, you have had the urge to do so, and instead of accepting this you condemn somebody else. The animation is grabbed from the web.

If you want to see, what is keeping you from enjoying the moment as it is, keep on blaming somebody else for your present state of your mind.

When you point the YOU finger towards somebody, three ME fingers point towards yourself to reveal, that what you blame others for is your own shit. In other words, what you do not want to acknowledge as yours, you exclude by projecting it onto somebody considered to be outside of you.

Let us say, that you point the YOU finger at someone and either silently or loud say, that this person is a dictator. The three ME fingers point back to you, so you are reminded of the feeling an authority figure triggers in you. Maybe you feel small and worthless in comparison with someone you perceive to be in charge. And to separate yourself from this feeling you blame the perceived authority for feeling inferior by accusing him/she for being a ruthless dictator, who takes away your free will.

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If you always control yourself in order to do the right thing, you will more and more sense what others seem to want and less and less what you want. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

This feeling of inferiority may have started in your childhood, where you never were allowed to follow your own wishes, but had to do what your parents claimed was the right thing. The memories of being overpowered and feeling inferior is blocked out by always controlling yourself in order to do the ´right´ thing instead of going with the flow of the moment.

The pressure off this self-made imprisonment is temporarily relieved every time, you see somebody, that you can point the YOU finger at and blame for pulling your strings, while avoiding to follow the three ME fingers, and see the problem is that you are ashamed of going with the flow as it is. But you probably do not know this, as you are so used to do what you think others expect of you in order to get their acceptance.

To be what you excluded is to include it
The above is not to say, that you must visit unresolved issues from the past to free yourself from them. Not at all – no need to deal with the past especially. Whatever pattern you have started – regardless when and for what reason – you will repeat it in the present. Yet it is neither necessary to process it in the present – or embrace the feelings you suppress when you blame others.

To process or embrace something requires you to observe it, which preserves the distance to it. Instead be what you have distanced yourself from by not thinking about what those you blame for pulling your strings are doing wrong, but completely unedited include whatever you feel, when they appear to take your space.

When what used to be excluded is included, it feels like a burden is gone. Not because something has been transcended or transformed, but because inclusion erases the memory of the excluded.

You are free to go with the your flow, when you are not stuck in a pattern of constantly excluding the parts, you do not like of the person you appear to be in the world. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

You are free to go with the flow, when you are not stuck in a pattern of constantly excluding the parts of your personality, that you do not want others to see as yours. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

Bringing it all back home you are free to go with the flow
The easiest way not to compulsively keep on excluding your past feelings by projecting them onto others but instead include them as they are experienced in the present is not to look inside yourself but outside by simply pointing the YOU finger at somebody else and blame them for what you feel. It may take a lifetime of meditation to see in yourself, what it takes a minute to see mirrored in others, and probably no more than another minute more to follow the three ME fingers, so the feelings can be included in the one actually having them.

By pointing the YOU finger at somebody, and follow the three ME fingers you include what you have excluded from yourself.

Inclusion is like an eraser, because what is included is not stored in the memory as something specific, so you will not know, what you have just included. You may notice though, that you are not so tense, and that next time you encounter a scenario, that used to upset you, you may laugh and wonder, how come you ever insisted in this being wrong. And so you are not stuck in your old pattern anymore and therefore free to go with the flow of the moment.

In the above the point of reference is to feel upset. But everything said in this regard also applies to pointing the YOU finger at a person saying: »You make me happy«. That person triggers a happiness, you have forgotten you already have, so if you not only follow the YOU finger but also the three ME fingers, you can include happiness instead of excluding it. Consequently you are free to share happiness with whomever appreciates it, as it is.


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