+ Sadness is not a problem, when it is a feeling you pretend to have

In Spain – like in any other country – you spend a long time learning the rules of interacting, so that you can pretend to be a person there and therefore be acknowledge to be real. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

In Spain – like in any other country – you spend a long time learning the rules of interacting, so that you know how to act as if you are a Spanish person and therefore are acknowledged by others as somebody instead of nobody. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

It takes time to learn pretending to be a specific person. When Alexius was a child, he learned how to pretend being a Danish person in a cold climate. Nowadays he is learning how to pretend to be a Spanish person in a warm climate, because that is where he appears to be now.

So he is learning to pretend being a person who speaks loud, shouts at waiters, enjoys having breakfast in a bar around 11AM, thinks 8PM is too early for dinner and does not say ´thank you´. Also he is learning to pretend being a person who greets woman by kissing them on both cheeks and who is not political correct by saying nigger and mixing things in non-established ways.

These are some of the very important things, that seems to defines a Spanish person in the public room – at least as seen from the perspective of someone formerly conditioned to be a Danish person.

Suffice to say is that every country has its own definition of how to be somebody in their part of the world, so wherever you appear to be, you must pretend to be someone who is in accordance with the local rules, if you want to be acknowledged as if you are somebody there.

This also applies to smaller groups of people and even in a love relation, where the amount of love you seem to get depends on how good you are in you pretending to be and have what you other one needs.

Whatever you choose pretending to be and have does not matter, because what you pretend to be and have is not real.

It is not possible for that which is you to feel happy or sad, because it takes more than one to feel something and that which is you is no different from that which is one. Appearing to be in a world where there seems to be more than one it is however possible to feel happy or sad. Fortunately the apparent difference between these or any other feelings do not make a difference, when the person who appears to feel them is a person you pretend to be. Selfie © Alexius Jorgensen.

Pretending to be someone definitive instead of believing to be one does not mean, that everything will work out for in the way that you expect. But it means, that when something does not work out as expected and a feeling of sadness passes by, it is not a problem that needs to be fixed, because you know it is just the person you pretend to be, who is sad. That which is you is not sad. Neither anything else, because it is no different from that which is one, and it takes more than one to feel anything.

If you on the other hand believe to be a specific kind of person, for example a Danish one, you will judge many things to be wrong in the Spanish persons and feel that they and not you must change. Hence you may choose to reside in communities of Danish people there. This is not a possibility for Alexius though, because he is the only one in the Spanish area where he appears to be, who has formerly been conditioned as a Danish person.

Alexius pretends to be a non teacher as well as a non student.

Fortunately it is not a problem, because to him it is fun pretending to be someone he is not, so it does not matter, if he must pretend to be Danish or Spanish and what and how feelings seem to manifest.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #1.5 Pretending to be someone definitive.

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