Pretending is a way out of duality

Pretending to be a person, who serves others can be fun.

Pretending to be someone definitive, who serves others in a restaurant can be fun. When it is over, you are free to go home. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Not believing but pretending to be someone, the conditioned behaviour that has been established for how to react falls apart. Thus you are free to go with the flow of the moment as it is, instead of compulsively trying to change it into what you want it to be. Consequently, you are not afraid of what is going to come. You feel entertained, no matter what.

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When your diet does not go as planned, and you feel sad and frustrated, you pretend to be a person who has problems and feels terrible about it. Since what you pretend to be you are not, nobody is worried but relieved.

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If there are specific characteristics of others you do not like, remind yourself that this is something you pretend. Should you feel it is wrong to complain, tell yourself it is also something you pretend. Hence you do not feel guilty but have fun criticising somebody.

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You can only feel compassion if you pretend it is possible to be and have more than that which is one because it takes more than one to feel something.

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If there is bitterness, there is bitterness. If there is a disappointment, there is a disappointment. As long as you do not try to push any feeling away, they do not seem to be able to have the power to hide, that it is always fun pretending to be a person in the world, because what you pretend to be you are not so that which is you remains the same while you pretend to be something else. Therefore you know that when you are finished pretending to be a person, you are still that which is you.

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Not believing but pretending to be someone definitive who experience to feel something rules out that it is real because what you pretend to be, you are not. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Seen from the perspective of a person in a world where there seems to be more than one, the formlessness of that which is one is a lonely affair. A person, who believes to be living in a world where there seems to be more than one needs companionship so that it seems this belief is shared and therefore acknowledged to be true.

That which is is formless and therefore endless, so there is no more than that which is one. As being together, therefore, is impossible, so is being lonely.

If you do not share this belief, but pretend to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one, no thoughts or feelings passing by is experienced to contribute to what you are, nor is what you appear to be.

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If you believe to be someone definitive biking, driving, meeting friends and whatnot, you need it to make you feel good. But if you pretend to be someone biking, driving, meeting friends and whatnot, how the experience turns out is not essential because all feelings are experienced to be entertaining. Read more about that in

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The world is a perception fabricated in the brain by splitting up that which is one into more than one. Oneness, however, cannot be manufactured, as it takes more than one to build something. In other words, there is no oneness to find in a world where there seems to be more than one. Yet it can be fun pretending to be in such a world – just like it can be fun pretending to be in a video game – when you know it is not real.

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You are mistaken if you think, you feel anger, love or something else because it takes more than one to feel it, and that which is you is no different from that which is one.

No worries. This mistake is easily corrected. If you pretend to be someone who is angry, fall in love or whatnot, there is no one feeling it because what you pretend to be is not real. Thus you are free to explore any kind of feeling – like when you pretend to be in the virtual world of a game. Nothing can hurt you. You are not there.

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To be chased is fun when it is something you pretend to be. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

To be chased is fun when it is something you pretend to be. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When you pretend to be someone, being rejected seems to be another joke in the comedy called The World. Even though you may react the same way as a person, who perceives the comedy to be real, you do not take it seriously. How can you be rejected? How can you be a criminal, when you go to jail in a game like Monopoly? You cannot. You are not there. It is something you pretend to be.

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The need to base your perception of the world on a system like, for example, astrology can be compared to using crutches when a leg is broken. They can be a great help in getting started to walk again, but when that is accomplished, they must be put aside. The same applies to any belief system in the world. The way to leave them and to start walking on your own is to not believe in the system of astrology, socialism and whatnot but only pretend that you do.

This detaches you from the system and the person you believe to be according to it, so you are free to pretend that you are a father, mother or whatever you like to explore in the game of being someone in a world where there seems to be more than one.

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Since it requires more than one to have a problem, and since there is no more than that which is one, there are no problems unless you believe, it is possible to be and have more than that which is one. Hence the undoing of that belief is the solution to all problems. Pretending to be and have more than that which is one is one way is, therefore, one way to to do it because what you pretend to be and have is not real.

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In most cases, it is not because of love for you but the food you provide, that a cat stays with you. That you love each other is something you pretend in to have your needs met. This also applies to the relationships between humans. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When you meet someone you are attracted to, it is common to analyse the perceived external interaction so you can build a personality you assume the other person will love. But since you fear, the other one will see through this masquerade and recognise you are not loveable, you built something into your new character that you reckon the other one cannot live without so you both become dependent on each other. You for being seen by the other as special and the other for getting something special from you.

Fortunately, all that is needed to escape this prison is to pretend you are there. Just like you when you appear to be imprisoned in a game like Monopoly.

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The more you see, that a world where there seems to be more than one is make-believe, the more depressed you may get until it dawns on you, that this means you are not there. Since it also indicates nothing matters, you are free to pretend to be what you prefer.

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You can pretend you are someone who follows god or others, have compassion for the world and love everybody, for example. But if you actually believe this is so, you are heading for trouble, because it requires more than one to follow somebody, have compassion or give love to others and that which is you is no different from the that which is one. And since it is formless and therefore endless, there is no more than that which is one. See also the article Coming from the heart is a denial of that which is one.

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In an attempt to establish the belief in being someone definitive as real, you may search long and hard to find the authentic self, who is behind the experience of being someone in a world where there seems to be more than one. But there is no higher self or consciousness, nor inside or outside you, because there is no more than that which is one and it takes more than one to be a higher self or have a consciousness. For the same reason, everything you believe to be or can become is an illusion. 

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Nobody pretends to be a person, because there is no more than that which is one and it takes more than one to pretend something. Pretending to be someone definitive, therefore, is just as illusionary as anything else that requires more than one. But since what you pretend to be, you are not, this illusion does not establish you as someone in a world where there seems to be more than one.

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It is not difficult to leave an illusion. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

In an illusion, nothing is real. Otherwise, it would not be an illusion. So to realise that which is you is not in there is also an illusion. In other words, there is nothing to understand in a world that is not real, except that everything in it is a fantasy.

Be aware, that the acknowledgement of this undoes the belief, it is possible to be and have more than that which is one. And though that is what you want, the transition may at first seem frustrating and claustrophobic. Since there is no more than that which is one, there is nothing outside of you to define you, nor inside. For the same reason, what you believe to be is no more, nor is there any memory of it,

If you are not ready for this, you better pretend to be someone in what you perceive to be a mundane or spiritual world, so you can enjoy the belief, it is possible to be and have more than that which is one, while slowly but surely having it undone.

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To say that a world where there seems to be more than one is a dream may be a bit too literal. It suggests the experience of such a world can be explained, but it is not possible. That which is one is formless and therefore endless, so there is no more than that which is one.

Appearing to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one is therefore not a dream. However, it may be compared to that because, in a dream, nothing is real. Only the dreamer is. But the dreamer is not in the dream, nor is anybody else, so nobody in the dream needs to wake up.

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If you are red-haired, you cannot choose to be blond instead. But you can choose, what kind of red-haired person, you want to pretend that you are – just like you can dress up a red-haired doll in different ways to change its personality.

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When you have nothing to live up to, you are free to pretend to be someone who lives up to the expectations of the world.

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This thing is of course not a real snake. It is a children´s toy, that symbolizes a real one. Likewise nothing in the world is real. It is appearances symbolizing, that which has no appearance, namely non-duality. The image is grabbed from the web.

This thing is, of course, not a real snake, but a children´s toy symbolising it. Likewise, nothing in a world where there seems to be more than one is real. But its appearances symbolise reality, namely that which is one. The image is grabbed from the web.

In the same way, as children toys symbolise something in the world of grown-ups, everything in their world is a symbol of that which is real, namely the formlessness of oneness. Perceived like that, it is not frustrating but entertaining to pretend the world is real.

You can read more about seeing everything in a world where there seems to be more than one as a symbol of that which is one in hack #2.1 Everything experienced is a symbol of life.

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Children like to build castles of sand on the beach and imagine they live inside it. Hence they cry when it falls apart. Most grown-ups, however, look at it as an illusion, so they do not complain if it falls apart. Likewise, if you pretend to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one, you do not cry when it is over.

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Pretending to be a child, when you are grown up, is much more fun than believing to be one.

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You can have as many friends as you want because having them or not is something you pretend.

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When we sit down to watch a movie, we allow ourselves to be deceived so that the world of it is experienced as real. But we know it is not so. We just pretend it is real. That is what we have forgotten in the movie called The World.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #1.3 Pretending to be someone definitive is liberation.

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