To be in the world or to experience being there

To be happy in the world or to experience happiness there. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You cannot be happy in a game like Monopoly, because you are not there. Yet you can experience to be happy there. The same applies to a world of duality. That which is you is non-dual, so you cannot be there. But you can pretend that you are. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

You can only be desperate, if you believe you are someone in a capsule of time and space. This applies to being happy and whatnot as well. But if you do not believe to be there, experiences of desperation or happiness will not make you desperate or happy – just like losing money in a game as for example Monopoly will not really make you poor.

It really does not matter, if you experience this or that, while pretending to be a car in Monopoly. You are not the car. You are not in Monopoly at all. It is not possible. Yet it is possible to pretend being there, so the ups and downs – from experiencing happiness to experiencing desperation – can be explored.

But if you believe to be there, you feel as if you are desperate or happy instead of just experiencing it.

You may ask how to pretend? No need. You already know. You are already pretending. You have just forgotten it. Here is an example taken from the tv-show The Big Bang Theory:

»When did you guys start feeling grown up?«

»Honestly, I thought when I got married I would, but I still kinda feel like I´m pretending.«

If you are do not try to fool yourself you will see, that not only feeling grown up is something you pretend to be. Also being a parent, a teacher or whatever you appear to be in the world is something you pretend after having played it out in your mind. 

Pretending to be someone in the world, you are free, because what you pretend to be, you are not.

Consequently you are not a person in the world, so you are free from being desperate, happy and whatnot. Yet while pretending to be a someone in the world, you are free to experience desperation, happiness and whatnot.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #1.6 Pretending is a way out of duality.