PMT A perfect moment lasts longer than now

The helicopter flying on top of the rainforest when this pic was shot by Alexius lying wounded on the floor is made in the past with people probably thinking of the future. Yet, everything is all part of the same moment. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The relief of a perfect moment comes from going back and forth, up and down, left to right and vice versa with the opposites of contrasts of the world experienced to be outside of you – especially those of good and bad and happy and sad – while their apparent difference does not make a difference because it is perceived as ´it is what it is.´ Read more about that in hack #4.2 The brain´s script and how to perceive it to feel happy.

Such a moment may last a split second, several hours or more, provided the thoughts you may have of the past or the future are included, as well as your interpretation of the telephone conversation you may actually have or the kiss you are dreaming of while speaking, or the anger that suddenly is triggered. In other words, what makes a moment perfect is not exclusiveness but inclusiveness.


The time of daydreaming, kissing or being angry may not have been a perfect moment while it lasted. Probably not, because a daydream is a story that you make up, and so is how you experienced a kiss. And a story is just like the world that seems to be outside of you, something that you interpret to differ from you. In other words, the stories going on in your head about something happening in a world you experience from there but interpret to be outside of you something you exclude from what you believe to be.

But as soon as you include the story of a kiss, anger or a daydream of a holiday, for example, the kiss, as well as the anger and the daydream, become a perfect moment. It is never too late to include a story of yours so that instead of separating you from the moment as it is, it makes it perfect.

It is a lot of work to constantly judge what should be excluded, whereas inclusiveness requires no work at all because it simply is the absence of excluding something.


A perfect moment is not to be compared to the so-called spiritual idea of living in the now. In the world, there is no such thing as living in the now. It is an idea based on exclusion rather than inclusion. Those following ideas like that seem to have made a list of what is right and wrong, and when all the wrongs – the parts of the world that they prefer not to experience – has been excluded, they imagine that they are spiritual and living in the now. 

When the wrongs they have excluded pop up again and disturb their constructed peace of mind, they have to meditate or, in other ways, change the wrongs into something that is ´better´, so the wrongs will not destroy their fabricated state of living in the now.

If you see this pic, you have excluded that which is you by believing, you can be separated from the oneness of that which is you.

If you see this image, you have excluded the formlessness of that which is you by imagining, that by being separated from it, you can be and have something tangible. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Just like Santa Claus is nothing but make-believe, so is a world defined by time and space. Hence not believing to see something, there is not something to hide the formlessness of that which is you.


It is not acceptable to accept yourself as someone in a world defined by time and space because that which is you is not definable. That it is formless becomes obvious when everything you seem to think or feel is included since that leaves nothing to define you as someone definitive.


You can only perceive yourself as separated because you know what it is not to be separated. Hence believing to be a separated being is a confirmation of oneness.


Be thankful every time something or somebody seems to upset you – or make you happy – because, at this moment, you can include what you believe to be, and thus undo the belief that you are separated from what you seem to experience.


Exclusion is against the nature of non-duality but necessary in a world of duality. No one can experience love, for example, without excluding its contrast hate, so that hate becomes the background defining love – just like you must exclude the white background of the letters here to perceive them. Yet, it is the excluded that defines them.


To have just one love, there must be much exclusion, which enhances the separation, you are trying to escape by having just one love.

Many think that it is possible to make one mood last by excluding what they judge to disturb that mood. Exclusion, though, does not bring oneness. On the contrary, it enhances the sense of separation.


To stop or not stop something that is not there makes no difference as it is equally illusionary. It makes, however, a difference if you stop believing there is something where there is nothing because then something does not appear to hide, there is nothing but the formlessness of oneness. The image is grabbed from the web.

In a world where there seems to be more than one, you must always look for more – even though you may have grasped, there is no more than that which is one.

To want less is also to want more, because you want to have more of less.

If you try to stop looking for more, you are just enhancing the idea that there must be more than that which is one. In other words, not looking for more is just as illusionary as looking for it because there is no more than that which is one.


A world where there seems to be more than one is made up of contrasts such as day and night. The opposites, in a contrast, are like two sides of a coin. You cannot have one without the other. Yet, it is possible to exclude one of them from your awareness by projecting it onto something that seems far away – for example, parts of your own body or somebody else´s.

Exclusion confirms separation and makes a world where there seems to be more than one to appear real. But the apparent separation in such a world can also be used to undo the belief in it as real. This is done by including the two separated sides of a contrast, as inclusion cancels their apparent separation.


There is nothing to accept because it takes two to do something, and there is no more than that which is one. In other words, to accept yourself is to acknowledge an illusion as real. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

Being angry is not a problem, as long as you do not justify it but totally include it. If you, out of an old reflex, hold onto anger, you may feel guilty and try to undo justifying it with the world by forgiving it. This, however, confirms the belief that there is more than that which is one.

But suppose you include justification and thus its contrast condemnation plus your guilt and thus its contrast innocence. In that case, you will get the sum of the contrasts, which as the sum of all other contrasts is nothing, because the inclusion of both sides in a contrast cancels it out. As that means your experience cannot be defined, there is nothing to justify, neither something to feel guilty about or forgive. That is the relief of a perfect moment.


The nature of a perfect moment is that every moment is the perfect moment. So while undoing the belief in a world, where there seems to be more than one, you also get what you always want in such a world, namely more – in this case, more perfect moments … and the more you get, the more your belief in a world where there appear to be more than one is undone.

It is not a matter of believing or have faith in that which is one. On the contrary. It takes more than one to believe or have faith in something. In other words, whatever you believe or have faith in is an illusion.

When there is no more belief, that which cannot be believed, namely the formlessness of oneness, does not appear to be hidden by it.


You cannot undo the belief in being someone definitive without exposing it. This does not have to be painful, but to the degree that you still believe there is more than that which is one, it seems very painful that there is no more than that which is one. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

If you walk the way of inclusion, there is no going back, although it at times seemed easier when the pain was suppressed. Jesus was in immense pain on the cross, which appears to be unavoidable if you want to know what you are not, so the belief that you are someone definitive can be undone and not hide the formlessness of that which is you.


First, all the thoughts you have excluded, and then all excluded feelings will rush by in the first moments of death. Not for sentimental reasons or for you to understand or suss out anything but to be included so that there is not something to define you as someone definitive and thus nothing to hide there is no more than the formlessness of oneness.


A world where there seems to be more than one is a story made up by you, and if you seem to be caught in it while listening to it, you can tell it in another way, so the listener, which also is you, do not hear a story about exclusion but about inclusion. In other words, if you do not exclude what you judge as bad but include it, your story is not about separation but inclusion – and so the storyteller and the listener are connected.

There are no worries when there is a connection, and where there are no worries, apparent differences do not make a difference. Consequently, there is no basis for the belief in separation, and so it does not seem to hide the formlessness of oneness.


A person has many contrasting attributes, that may seem to be in conflict. No worries. This is not a problem when feelings judged to be ugly are not excluded but included, because inclusion place them on an equal foot, so that the apparent differences make no difference. Just like the different colors in this image make no difference to the beauty of the scenery. You may even say the differences enhance the beauty.

The apparent difference between the colours in this image makes no difference when all are included. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

After reading hack #4.1 Every moment is the perfect moment, you may conclude that being and having more should be avoided. If so, you have not gotten what it is all about, namely inclusion. In other words, no need to avoid anything. Wanting to be and have more is unavoidable in a world where there appears to be more than one since that is the wish it is founded on. Yet you do not need to believe that being and having more make a difference.

Inclusion can be compared to a black hole that sucks everything into it. In the end there is not even someone to include something, neither is there an end except for the belief of being someone specific.

By not excluding anything but including everything that you experience, precisely as it appears to be, the apparent difference between the experiences make no difference. So there is no need to avoid or cherish anyone in particular.

To include something is of course just as illusionary than anything else, that requires more than one. Yet the illusion of inclusion is a way to use the belief that there is more than that which is one to undo it.

This is not meant to say that you have to stop anything to undo the belief in separation. But if it is part of your personality to do so, you just include that trait. In other words, nothing is wrong as long as not excluded but included. Even the tendency to exclude is not wrong when included.

*) The easiest way to sync the world of the inner and outer senses is to not do anything about it but having the empty breath guide you, as this synchronisation is a natural attribute of it. See hack #4, A state of not-knowing is nothing but bliss.

**) As the appearance in a world defined by time and space requires constant confirmation of separation, a perfect moment where the apparent differences in such a world do not appear to make a difference cannot last too long. If more than half an hour, the biological system of being someone in a specific body breaks down. See the article A perfect moment does not require learning – only inclusion.


  • Not being exclusive but inclusive does not mean you must accept all appearances of the world, but include the disgust that some appearances seem to trigger as much as you include the feeling of joy that others seem to bring.
  • This article is part of hack #3.1 Every moment is the perfect moment.