Inclusion is liberation from separation

Accept darkness instead of fighting it, and it will enhance the light of the moment.

The sum of any contrast is a perfect moment, so instead of denying or fighting darkness go for it, as this will bring out its contrast, light, as well. Not in the way though that they will merge into dawn, but that they will cancel out each other, so that there is nothing to experience. That is a perfect moment. The photo by the way is from such a perfect moment in my garden. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

By thinking somebody else is the cause of your current condition, you have justified the way that you perceive the world. It appears, as if it is not your choice. This is a way of making separation real, because projecting the cause of your perception onto powers, that appears to be outside of you, there appear to be more than that which is one.

The two cats – Wincent and Guinevere – that I am sharing a home with appear like most cats to be very territorial, so when a new cat curiously showed up in our home, they got very upset – especially Guinevere. She freaked out and furiously ran away. Later, when she returned, she did not notice at first that the stranger still were chilling out on the sofa, so she laid down on the floor without a worry – until she suddenly looked up and saw him. Then hell was loose.

Once again she furiously left us, and even though the visitor had left when she returned, she was still very upset. To prove that her feelings of unjust were justified, she went around sniffing everywhere in our home to find spots with leftover scent of the visitor. Every time she succeeded, she freaked out to show us how much the stranger had hurt her feelings.

Ultimately speaking it is not possible to be troubled by something, because there is no more than that which is one. But if you believe the story of a world, where there seems to be more than one, there will always be somebody or something that seems to cause you trouble. In other words, you will not be trouble-free before you the belief, that it is possible to be and have more than that which is one, is undone.

Guinevere freaking out. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Guinevere freaking out. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The anger, Guinevere was holding onto, was supposed to exclude the unfamiliar cat from her world and to make him suffer for what she imagined he had done to her. But as the new cat mostly had spent his time with us sleeping on the sofa, he had no idea, that she was angry and it was supposed to hurt him. In fact he happily returned the next day to take another nap on the sofa. But there was another one, who felt punished by her anger, namely herself. It was eating her up from inside.

Blaming others for what you judge to be wrong, you appear to be right and therefore special, which is a very efficient way to enhance the belief, that separation makes it possible to be and have more than that which is one.

This article is not about anger but the purpose of holding onto feelings
The above cat story is not meant to be a story about anger, but the purpose of justifying feelings – including feeling love and whatnot – which is to make separation look as if it is real. A feeling in itself cannot confirm your believe in separation. But when it is justified by something judged to be outside of you, it seems to establish there is more than that which is one, and that you are an autonomous creature, who is better than those, you have excluded by blaming them for your anger.

As it takes more than one to feel something, and as there is no more than that which is one, feelings always ends up being experienced as painful. In this way you are reminded, it is not possible to be or have more than that which is one.

And this confirms, that separation makes it possible to be and have more than that which is one. At least that is what you want to believe, even though the prize of this belief is pain.

In the case of Guinevere her anger really makes her differ from the stranger, and that makes her appear to be very special. Unfortunately the anger, that appears to make her special, also makes the stranger appear to be special, so to be more special than him, she must justify her anger more – and so it goes on endlessly.

Feeling angry or happy results in the same, if those feelings are justified by something, namely the enhancement of separation and therefore suffering.

Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

A victim of justification
Even though what we judged to be a problem is out-of-the-way, we often choose to hold onto it in order to justify anger and to punish those we blame for it – maybe our parents – by putting up a sad face so that they can see how much they have hurt us.

Feeling angry is an imagination, as reality is that which is one and it takes more than one to feel something.

If anger is attributed with a cause, it appears as if somebody or something has upset you. But if anger is not attributed with a cause nothing has upset you. The way to attribute anger with a cause is to justify it, so if you do not do that, the story is over and you can be at ease with anger, because nothing from the past is triggered by it.

In the context of the story of Guinevere this means, that if she does not exclude her anger from herself by justifying it as if it is caused by the visiting cat but include it as hers, she has no need to get upset about a visitor in our home and make up a story that implies he must be punished for disturbing her peace of mind. Neither does she need to make up a story, where the visitor must be forgiven, because he has not upset her.

If a feeling of rejection is not justified by what somebody else appear to have done or not done, the feeling is included in your story of what you appear to be, and as you are the editor of the story, you can always change it to your likings. This does not mean, you can change the weather or anything else in the world, but that you change your perception of it.

Guinevere likes to sit on our balcony. It is because of the view to the sea, but the canaries that she sees in the trees and dream of catching. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

There is no darkness without light and vice versa
Even though the everyday view from the balcony of Alexius in the above image is very pleasurable to him, he sometimes succeeds to find things in it that seems to justify a discomforting feeling. Just like Guinevere, who was looking for hidden things in our home to evoke the memory of her image she made up of her encounter with the visiting cat, so that her justification of her present anger appear to be excluded from her.

To include a feeling as it is, you just let it be without justifying it. To let it be requires, that you consider yourself to be someone definitive, as otherwise there would not be someone to let it be. But by letting it be you lose control and without it you cannot align your appearance into someone specific, so you become nobody.

In this way somebody, who appears to make you angry, becomes somebody who is helping you to become nobody – and it takes nobody to have a perfect moment, where nothing is wrong or missing.

Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Guinevere came to my house on Christmas eve, when she was 5 month old. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Guinevere came to Alexius, when she was around five month old. She had been left behind twice by other people, so when events in the present trigger her old feelings of insecurity she freaks out. Alexius grew up in a home, that felt like a war zone to him, so he tends to justify his anger as a necessity to protect him from a devastating power interpreted to come from outside of him. 

Such anger from the past does not have to be an ongoing problem though, because when not excluded by blaming somebody else for having caused it, but instead included as it perceived to be, it will not only reveal its other side, which is pleasure, but also that the sum of the opposites in a contrast is a perfect moment.

When you feel wrong, but do not want to include it in your story of what you appear to be, most likely you will exclude it by judging something considered to be outside of you to be wrong. This will not put you at ease though, because the feeling of being wrong is your idea.

In a perfect moment anger is not a disturbing feeling, pushed away into the dark. Instead it is taken into the light, so the hidden memories of the past, that seemed to have caused it, is no more. Not by going back into the past to fix it, neither by denying it, but by including the pain and anger of the past as it is experienced in the present.

Feelings need the belief in a world, where there seems to be more than one, because it takes more than one to feel something – and such a world needs feelings in order to be experienced as if it is real and not just make-believe.

Inclusion frees you from your own story of a world made up of past memories, and as it is those memories you use to keep your believe in separation alive, the concepts used to condition you into assuming that you are an autonomous creature quietly falls apart. This does not mean that you will get rid of your conditioning. If you try that, they will just be replaced by others. But it means, you will not consider them to be real – just like even though you play along with the rules of a game, you do not consider the rules of it to be real.


NOTES:

  • In this article, that is part of hack #3.2 Inclusiveness is a perfect moment, the words light, dark and darkness are used within the context of a world defined by time and space, and so they have nothing to do with enlightenment of that which is one.
  • Rediscovering this old article of mine was the jumpstart to the theme Inclusiveness is a perfect moment. Thus it became part of the theme in this revised version. See also the next article Anger has no power when included, which is a nota bene to this one.

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