To make a difference is to separate

You are defined by what you judge not to be you. In other words, you do not want to make peace in the world. You need the bad guy to be there, so can you appear as the good one. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

You are defined by what you judge yourself not to be. In other words, you do not want peace in the world, because you need the bad guys to contrast, the image you have made of yourself as the good one doing the right thing. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

To include what upsets you will not transform it but simply stop it from upsetting you. You do not even know what is not upsetting you anymore. The memory of it is gone. So if you for example want to forget your ex, you simply include your memories of the relation completely unedited.

If the apparent difference in the height of persons are not perceived to make a difference, you are not defined as neither small or tall.

To include the memories of a rejection is to totally be the memories, as that means they cannot be contrasted and therefore not defined. Hence you are not someone, who has been rejected. From this follows that inclusion does not establish you into someone definitive but as nothing.

That is why you must go on excluding, if you want to someone in the world, as what you exclude is what defines you to as someone. Yet you cannot be exclusive without cherishing the belief in separation, which is the cause of loneliness, .

When there is no need to be validated as someone definitive, it does not matter, if  others seems to induce feelings of sadness or happiness, because there is nobody to pick them up.

In other words, as believing to be someone definitive seems to limit the formlessness of oneness, it entails an experience of suffering, and as there is no suffering in life, it seems hidden to you. Not believing to be someone definitive, however, brings nothing definitive and so there is not something definable to hide the formlessness of that which is life.

NOTE: This article is part of hack #3.3 Life is inclusive and not exclusive.