To not exclude but include a feeling is to be it

To include anger is to be it and being it is to express it – most often in your mind, as that is where it originates. This image of Jack Nicholson from The Shining is grabbed from the internet.

To include anger is to be it and being it is to express it – most often in your mind, as that is where the problem originates, although it may seem to be caused by something from outside. This image of Jack Nicholson from The Shining is grabbed from the internet.

To include a feeling is not to understand it but to be it, which is done by expressing it to those, you assume to have caused it. Not literally though because your assumption is made up by yourself, so you express it where the problem is made, namely in your mind.

To exclude a feeling is to not be it and to include it is to be it – and being it, you are not scared of it anymore.

Do not be ashamed if you burst out in anger. Exposing feelings without shame is to include them. Should you feel ashamed, do not try to stop it, but include feeling ashamed … and if you cannot help trying to stop it, include that by being holding back in your mind.


NOTES:

  • Including your feelings will save you from comfort-eating, compulsive shopping, cleaning or what else you use to divert your attention from what you exclude.
  • This article is the intro to hack #3.3 To include is to not exclude.