If included, irritation undoes the belief in duality

You are bound to feel divided between contrast like right and wrong in a world of duality, and as that which is you is no different from that which is one, it feels irritating to deal with separation. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

You cannot avoid irritation, when you believe to be in a world of duality, because in order to uphold this belief, you must always choose between contrasts like good and bad, right and wrong and so on. And as this is a confirmation of separation and that which is you is no different from the formlessness of that which is one, choosing feels as if you are disconnected.

The belief in separation entails fear of intimacy, as that undoes separation. The graphic is grabbed from Ello.

When irritation is not excluded by blaming somebody or something else for having caused it, but instead included in the experience of what you appear to be, the belief in separation cannot be upheld.

But the intimacy that this entails seems is scary to most, so they prefer to maintain the belief in separation by justifying feelings as caused by something outside of themselves.

Most do not want to have this exposed, as that will question their belief in being someone definitive separated from the formlessness of that which is one, so they hide the cause of irritation by blaming something judged to be outside of them for upsetting them.

In order to feel good as someone definitive you choose to blame somebody experienced to be outside of you for being bad, so that there wrong appearance justify your feeling of discomfort and hide the denial of that which is you.

In other words, by accusing somebody for being bad, they seem to have caused your irritation and not your denial of that which is you. But as that again involves choosing, it upholds the belief in separation, which is the cause of irritation, so even though you seem to have proved others to be bad and you to be good, and therefore should be happy, that is not how you feel.

Most believe that it will make you feel good, when what they think is wrong has been made right. But the problem is not good versus bad, but that you have to choose between them, because that which is you is no different from the formlessness of that which is one. In other words, you are not made to choose, as that requires more than one. In a world of duality though choice cannot be avoided. Yet you can choose not to choose. The is the choice of peace.The graphic is grabbed from the web.

Most believe that they will feel good, when something has been made right. The problem though is not good versus bad, but that you feel disconnected when choosing between the opposites of a contrast, because that which is you is no different from that which is one, and it requires more than one to choose. Choosing, however, cannot be avoided in a world of duality. But if you choose not to choose, there is no separation to confirm a world of duality. The graphic is grabbed from Ello.

Irritation is enhanced every time it is justified, because blaming somebody or something else for how you feel is only possible when you believe in separation, which is the cause of irritation.

Nevertheless you keep on hoping that this underlying feeling of discomfort will go away, when something judged to be wrong has been fixed. So you compulsively look for something to make better, but as that enhances the belief in separation so is the feeling of irritation.

There would not be nothing to make better, if you did not believe in separation. This belief is therefore enhanced every time you think about helping somebody or improving something.

Feelings of frustrations can be compared with a traffic sign saying, you are going the wrong way. This is not to say, that feeling them is wrong. On the contrary. It is justifying them, that is going the wrong way, because by doing that they are excluded instead of included. If included to the extent that you are nothing but what you feel, you are set free, because a feeling cannot survive on its own. It has to be contrasted in order to be felt as something specific, so when there is nothing else than that, you are set free from duality. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

Feelings of frustrations can be compared to a traffic sign saying, you are going the wrong way. This is not to say, feelings should be avoided. It is justifying them, that leads the wrong way, because by doing so they are excluded instead of included. If a feeling is included to the extent, that you are nothing but that, the belief in being someone definitive cannot be upheld, because you can only be felt as someone definitive by experiencing you are contrasted by somebody else – just like you would not be able to see the white letters in the above sign, if they were not contrasted by another colour. In other words, when there is nothing else than what you feel, it cannot be felt as something specific anymore. Hence there is nothing, and so there is nothing to define duality. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

No worries. Irritation is simply a warning sign saying, you cannot go down this road, because it takes more than one to feel something and you are that which is one. So if irritation is not excluded by being justified as caused by others but instead included as it is experienced by you*, it disappears, as without exclusion there is no separation.

This does not necessarily mean, your appearance as someone definitive in a world of duality is over, but that the belief to be someone definitive is replaced by pretending to be it. When that is over, and as what you pretend to be you are not, nobody returns to the formlessness of that which is one. Since it takes more than one to exist, this is a ´return´ to non-existence.

Even though inclusiveness as described in Alexius´ Enlightened Non Teachings in some ways may be similar to the Jungian idea of integrating the shadow side of the personality, it is not an attempt to be whole, spiritual or being anything at all, as to be something requires more than one.

Neither is inclusiveness about owning your flaws, since that is a confirmation of being someone definitive. Nor is it the same as accepting the unknown dark side of the personality, as that is to accept exclusion and therefore the imprisonment of separation, whereas inclusion leaves nothing to accept, which is freedom.

Inclusiveness as described in Alexius´ Enlightened Non Teachings is simply about undoing the belief in being someone at all.

The graphic is grabbed from the web.

The less contrast there is, the less there is to see. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

To feel something you must exclude the formlessness of that which is you, as you can only feel something when it is contrasted by something judged to be different from it, and nothing differs from each other in the formlessness of that which is you.

While you believe to be in a world of duality, however, you do not have to hesitate asking your neighbours to be more quiet, if they are experienced to disturb you. By all means go ahead and blame them, but be grateful also that they have made you aware, how irritating it is to judge them to be something you are not and therefore as separated from you. This gratefulness will set you free to follow the flow, that slowly but surely undoes the belief in separation.

Going with the flow you do not try to exclude the feeling of irritation by projecting it onto somebody or something else – for example a back that hurts – but instead include it completely undiminished and unedited in all its horror, which it is when you are nothing but irritated. When there is no other feeling than irritation, there is not something to contrast it, which means it cannot be experienced as something specific, and so the belief in separation cannot be upheld.

It is not only irritation, that is your salvation when included. This applies to any feeling, whether so-called positive or negative. If you go all the way and fully experience a feeling – no matter it seems to relate to the past or the present – you will be so merged with it, that there is nothing to contrast it, which means it cannot be experienced and therefore return to the nothingness from where it came. Hence there is nothing to uphold the belief in duality. The graphic is grabbed from Ello.

What is said in the above about irritation also applies to other so-called negative feelings – for instance rejection, anger and inferiority – that you normally try to exclude by justifying them as caused by your boss or somebody else. It also applies to so-called good feelings, if they are justified by being caused by somebody*. When you for example assume a feeling of love is caused by your spouse, it has been excluded and not included, so that separation is experienced as real and oneness as false.

Not to believe somebody or something is in need of fixing is to not believe that you are someone definitive. Hence there is no belief hiding that which is you is no different from the formlessness of that which is one, which means there is nothing to choose and therefore nothing to cause irritation.

To make long short, if you want to have the belief in separation undone, it makes no difference what you seem to feel while believing to be someone definitive. That is, if you do not exclude what you experience to feel by compulsively justifying it as caused by somebody or something, but include it totally undiminished and unedited, which is done by being nothing but what you experience to feel.

In order to define something, something else must be excluded, so that it can define what you want to experience. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

In order for something to be defined, something must be excluded, so that the excluded defines what you believe to experience. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

The belief in separation can also be undone by simply perceiving everything in a world of duality as symbols of non-duality. Exclusion is necessary to perceive such a world, but when perceiving it to be a symbol of non-duality, the separation it seems to cause is just another symbol of non-duality. See hack #2.1 To see symbols of life in the world and hack #2.2 Everything experienced is a symbol of life.

Applying hack #1.5 Pretending to be a person or hack #1.6 Pretending is a way out of duality is also gonna undo the belief separation.

It does not matter which one of these hacks that you use or if they are mixed. It all boils down to acknowledging, that just like in a dream you do not know what and where you are.


*) See the below articles regarding projections and justifications as a way to exclude something, so that you can be defined as someone definitive by what has been excluded.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #3.5 Inclusiveness is pure bliss.

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