(SH) To NOT exclude is to exclude the belief in being someone definitive

Exclusiveness is the foundation of appearing to be someone definitive in a world of duality, as it favours one side of a contrast over the other, whereas inclusiveness cancels out the apparent difference in contrasts. Consequently you do not appear to be someone definitive but nobody and so the foundation for the belief in separation is gone. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The foundation of your appearance as someone definitive in a world of duality is exclusiveness. Fist one side of a contrast is judged to be better than the other. Secondly, the bad side is excluded by projecting it on somebody, so that you appear to be good at the expense of somebody else, who appears to be bad. Inclusiveness, on the other hand, cancels out the apparent difference of contrasts, so that the more there is included the less you appear to be someone definitive and the less there appear to be others, which means the foundation for the belief in separation is fading out. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

PART 1:
Appearing to be someone in a world of duality you cannot be happy all the time. A feeling needs to be contrasted by its opposite in order to be experienced as something specific. You would not know happiness if not for sadness. In other words, as high as you want to go, as low you must be prepared to fall.

The wish to have one feeling only is a memory from non-duality – a twisted memory though because there are no feelings in non-duality, as it is that which is one and it takes more than one to have a feeling about something.

For the same reason, there are no contrasts in non-duality. Yet a world of duality cannot be experienced without them. And that is why non-duality cannot be implemented in a world of duality. In such a world you must have darkness to have light, war to have peace, negativity to have positivity and so on.

Furthermore, it is not possible to experience light without the exclusion of its contrast darkness and vice versa. The nature of non-duality, however, is not to exclude but include, so if you try to implement it in a world of duality it cannot be experienced, because inclusion cancels out the opposites of a contrast so that there is no difference to perceive and therefore no duality.

Being a person in a world of duality is effortless, the more its apparent differences is not perceived to make a difference, because then separation is not confirmed and so its outcome, suffering, does not need to be avoided.

If the contrasts of you are not kept separated but allowed to meet they cancel each other out. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

If the two sides of the contrasts, that seem to define you, are not kept separated but allowed to meet, they will cancel each other out – and so you are free from being defined as either good or bad. Instead, you are nobody. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

In other words, inclusion undoes contrasts and therefore the belief in duality, so the more both sides of contrasts are included – instead of keeping them apart like for example Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde – the less you appear to be someone definitive in a world of duality.

But to include something you must first exclude it. If you want to experience love, for example, you exclude what you do not want to experience, namely hate, so that it can serve as a background for an experience of love. It is not necessary though to be conscious about the part of a contrast that you exclude, which in this case is hate because love could not be experienced without it.

So by fully devoting yourself to love, the other side, hate, is included as well, which means they no longer form a contrast. Therefore you neither have love or hate but indifference.

To resume, by using the premise of duality, namely contrast, you can have the belief in it undone by not keeping the two sides of a contrast separated but letting them join so that they do not form a contrast to each other and therefore do not confirm a world of duality anymore.

The graphic is grabbed from the web.

If you want to remain in a world of duality, you must always hold back, so that you do not lose yourself in the intensity of an experience. Finding mistakes or claiming that you need time to process what is happening are common ways of holding back so that you do not lose yourself in the intensity of the moment. The graphic is grabbed from Ello.

PART 2:
Instead of trying to avoid the thoughts and feelings, that seem to disturb you, experience them so much that you are nothing but what you want to avoid. As a thought or a feeling needs a contrast in order for it to be experienced as something specific, what you want to avoid will simply vanish, when this is all that is experienced.

As one side of a contrast defines the other, you cannot have one without the other, when you feed and play into the experience of being someone definitive in a world of duality. So no contrast = no definition = no experience = no duality = non-duality.

Be aware though that if you for example experience hate to the extent that you are nothing but that, not only hate will go away but also its contrast love, as they are two sides of the same coin.

If you lose yourself in love, there is nobody to love anybody. Hence there is nobody to believe in duality. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

If you lose yourself in love, there is nobody to love anybody. Hence there is nobody to believe in duality. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

If you want to undo the belief in duality, do not hold back feelings or slow down thoughts, but follow the flow of them all the way through. In this way the experience of sex, for example, will be so intense, that it obliterate itself, because in the ecstasy of it there is no room for anything else, and nothing can be experienced without a contrast. Hence there is no experience, and therefore no experiencer to believe in duality.

In other words, each feeling has a prize, and the prize of love is hate. You cannot have one without the other. And if you have none of them you have nothing, which is the reality of duality. There is nothing in a world of duality because non-duality is formless and therefore endless, so there is no more than that. Hence acknowledging to have nothing, you are nothing, and there is not something appearing to hide non-duality.

Go with the flow and go all the way, if you do not want something to hide the formlessness of that which is you. The animation is grabbed from Ello.

PART 2:
Try imagining to pump up the volume of music until it is so distorted, that it cannot be perceived as music. And then go on imagining to pump it up until it is so loud, that there is nothing to hear. Hence there is not someone definitive to know this.

Going all the way does not result in something but that which is formless.

It is not a suggestion to actually do this but to imagine it until the mind cannot grasp it, because the mind is the gap* between the appearance of you as someone definitive and the formlessness of that which is you.

When there is no time to think what and where you are, there is peace. The animation is grabbed from Ello.

When there is no time to think what and where you are, there is joy. The animation is grabbed from Ello.

PART 3:
The story of a person is mostly a sad one – and fear based as well. In order to be in balance and not miss out on anything, a person reacts to everything as if it is driving a car with the brakes on – assuming that going slow there is more time to understand and process life.

Yet looking for more of anything does not result in joy but stress, whereas releasing the brake is pure joy because that comes from driving so fast, that there is no time to define what and where you are.**


*) Check out the article The closer you look, the less you believe what you see is real for more about the gap, that initiated the appearance of a world where there seems to be more than one.

**) Be aware that the above is a metaphor, so when physically driving a car, you, of course, put on the brake when needed, so you are not stopping yourself from going with the flow of the drive, which is pure joy.


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