4.2 Control is the fear of not being good enough

All the experiences believed to be yours or others are made by your brain. It stores the memories that you believe to constitute what you and others are. Therefore, the appearance of you and others as substantial beings in a tangible world is the brain and vice versa. This also applies to experiences considered spiritual. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Even though the brain deceives you by making experiences that seem to establish you as someone substantial in a tangible world, it is not your enemy. On the contrary, the brain just wants to make you happy. If that is not how you feel, you have most likely disassociated yourself from the brain´s experiences. Instead of perceiving them as they are, you perceive them as they should be per a specific religion or philosophy that you fancy.

But since everything in this perception revolves around you knowing better than the brain, and since you do not know who you are, it is hard work to make it look like you, and not the brain, knows the best. And though you claim this, you blame the brain for feeling stressed. Hence you meditate or force your body into strange positions to cut off the brain, assuming this will make you feel free from its perceived tyranny and replace frustration with fulfilment.

Metaphorically speaking you should eat all thoughts with much pleasure, because they are just as sweet as you.

However, the rejection of some or all thoughts as the root of evil does not result in completion but loss. On the other hand, should you perceive all thoughts as presents from the brain, they will not seem to cause loss, nor abundance, but the quiet happiness that comes from being blessed. The thoughts coming from the brain constitute what you appear to be and what you seem to experience because what and where you experience being is nothing but a construction of thoughts manufactured by the brain.

To sum it up, the brain renders a self in which it installs a consciousness so the self can perceive itself as a substantial being by having conscious experiences of the tangible world that the brain fabricates as if it is outside of the self. Thus, the brain is the same as what and where you experience being.

You try to restrict the only friend you have, namely the brain, by dividing the thoughts it produces into good and evil. Then you suppress the evil ones by meditating or projecting them onto others to appear as only good and thus beyond the brain´s script of duality, where everything comes in pairs. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Ultimately speaking, you are not the brain or anything else because there is no more than that which is one, and it takes more than one to be anything. Consequently, this article, just like what you appear to be, is nothing disguised as something.

Trying to change something, therefore, is like changing the colour of your hair. Though the new tone makes you look different, the original colour remains the same underneath it. Yet, more or less everybody believes that changing their look will make them able to get more money, power, love, peace, silence or whatever they think will make them special and more appreciated.

Control is the fear of not being good enough to be affirmed as someone in the world of something.

This wish to change ourselves often starts in early childhood, where we learned that when we changed our appearance into something our parents considered to be more lovable, we would get more attention and hence a feeling of being loved. Read more about that here. Consequently, most have concluded that by controlling themselves, they can manipulate others into liking them.

Several events can have led to this conclusion. Maybe your parents forced you to use the toilet before you were ready. In an attempt to please them and be the child they wanted, you decided to control your urination by tightening the muscles in the loin. However, the price of getting their ´love´ was a damaged body. The premature constriction of the muscles blocked the natural flow in the biological system, so the communication between the body and the brain was disrupted.

Therefore, as the brain could not support the body, it tried to fix the problems in its own way. The blockage in the loin, it attempted to solve by balancing it with a problem in the shoulder, neck or jaw. It is often the latter because it makes it possible to keep a specific expression in place as if you are happy with those around you.

The life of a self has been planned by the brain, and it cannot be altered. But the perception of it can be changed, so it seems to be in charge of itself. That is done by making up stories that, in retrospect, establish that everything is going according to the plan of the self. If not, the brain is blamed. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

But this further disrupted the communication between the brain and the body. And though you can diminish the problems in the upper body via massage and whatnot, the relaxation will not last because the hardened loin will soon reinforce the issues in the upper body to balance out the stiffness in the lower body.

Hence you will never feel the healing the natural flow of a biological system adequately hooked up with the brain brings about. Instead, you feel held back by something you cannot find – especially when you try to find that in the body and not in what has caused the blockage, namely the perception of yourself as inferior. In other words, if you do not manipulate others to love you by meddling with your body, the natural flow of the biological system is not disrupted by your interference. Thus the brain can use it to heal the body when there is a physical problem.

A straightforward way to correct how you feel about yourself is to perceive that as ´it is what it is.´ This reveals that you are good enough as you are. Therefore you are set free, and so are those you have deemed to imprison you. Ultimately, the solution is to undo the belief in being someone, as that means there is nobody to misinterpret anything. However, this hack is about having a good time as someone while having the belief in being that undone. So we go on with the script of the brain.

As the brain´s script is fixed, the exact same tensions in the loin would have occurred, whether or not you perceived you had to adjust to your parents to get their love in your childhood. But had you perceived yourself to be good enough as you were, your perception would have been in sync with the brain´s script, and the tension in the loin would not be a psychosomatic but a physical problem. And the latter is much easier to deal with.

There is nothing to be found in Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings. That is why reading them will hack the belief in being someone definitive. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The above explanation of cause and effect is not entirely correct. Nothing adds up in a world where there seems to be more than one because it is an illusion. There is no more than that which is one since it is formless and therefore endless. That is what the explanations in Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings are meant to illustrate. Hence they only work when used to expose a world where there seems to be more than one is a fantasy.

This explanation is also a fantasy, and so is the idea that somebody is making or having it – just like nobody, in particular, is causing or having a dream, and there is nothing in it. Hence Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings is not a new philosophy with the answers to the world’s problems or why and how we appear to be there as if we are separated from each other. There is no answer to that or anything else because there is no more than that which is one, and it takes more than one to explain something.

Ultimately speaking, therefore, it does not matter if you are in sync with the brain´s script and thus as happy as made to be, or perceive the script in such a way that that you appear to be more exceptional than scripted and hence a special self who independently of the script looks for its own happiness. However, as happiness comes from being in sync with the brain´s script, the special self never finds it. Read more about this in hack #4.1 The basic self versus the special one.

That is why, in the context of the world where we appear to be, everything seems to be much easier when one´s perception is in sync with the brain´s script. Hardly any thoughts are needed for that, and as they compile themselves from the pool of thoughts the brain has made for this (read more about that here), there are no stray thoughts to disturb you. In contrast, it requires much effort to make a perception where you appear to be more special than the basic self, which the brain has created, requires much effort.

You must seek out special thoughts to make this happen, and by doing so, they start to scamper around and fight each other, which feels stressful – especially as it affects how you see the world. Therefore, the special self concludes, it is best to get rid of some or all of the thoughts, or at least slow them down via meditation or something else that supports the idea of being in control.

This, however, enhances the problem, which is that the special self perceives itself to be the master and the brain its servant. It is the other way around. So if the special self honours the brain for producing the experiences of being someone by perceiving them as they are and not as they could be, happiness comes all by itself. Actually, so much that the few thoughts required for having a perception in sync with the brain are unnoticed. See also Without the noise of thoughts.

 

Everything is always going your way. If it does not seem so, you are not going your way. Not in the sense that you are going the wrong way. That is not possible. But in the sense that you perceive it in a way that is not beneficial, namely as if the world revolves around you. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

In short, if we do not try to edit the perception the brain automatically generates of ourselves, we are in sync with it and thus rewarded with so many shots of happiness that we feel loved and love everybody as ourselves (read more about that here).

As that means you do not spend time looking for happiness, you can read Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings without looking for something in them to make you happy. Hence the duality hacks reveal the nothingness of what and where you believe in being while you have fun reading about them.

Many try to solve the feeling of not being good enough by finding somebody who will admire them, as they mistake that for being loved. Others may clean the house, go shopping, eat, smoke, have sex, or whatever makes them forget they do not feel wanted. However, most try to resolve this by making others wrong. But none of this works, because feeling unwanted comes from how you think the world should respond to you and not how it actually does it.

The root of this mispercection can be found by walking down memory lane. But it probably takes a long time and you may miss it. Fortunately, this misperception can be corrected right now by perceiving your inferioty as ´it as it is what it is.´ This takes the sting out of the feeling, so whatever appeared to make you feel wrong does not have an affect on you. Therefore, the next time you by reflex make a perception that implies you are not good enough you laugh because´it as it is what it is

Read more about this perception in ´I know what it is´ vs ´it is what it is´ vs ´dunno what it is´


NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.2 The brain´s script and how to perceive it to feel happy.