BM3 Control is the fear of not being good enough [draft]

As all experiences are make-believe, the brain uses the same organ to process them all, regardless you perceive them to be real or imaginary, spiritual or physical, yours or others. So if you do not push away the fantasies judged as incorrect but live them out in your head, you have fun doing that and so has the brain, so it does not need to ´really´ make it happen. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Even though the brain deceives you by making experiences that seem to attest to you being someone substantial in a tangible world, it is not your enemy. On the contrary, the brain just wants to make you happy. If you do not feel that, you have most likely disassociated yourself from its fabrication as it is by creating a perception of how it should be according to a specific re.ligion or philosophy.

But as everything in this perception revolves around you being independent of the brain and in charge of yourself, which is constant hard work, you feel very stressed.   Though you claim to be in charge, you blame the brain for this, and meditate or force your body into strange positions to shut off the brain, assuming this will make you feel free from its perceived tyranny and replace frustration by fulfilment.

Metaphorically speaking you should eat all thoughts with much pleasure, because they are just as sweet as you are.

The rejection of some or all thoughts, however, as if they are the root of evil, does not result in completion but loss. Should you, on the other hand, perceive all thoughts as presents from the brain, they will not seem to cause loss, nor abundance, but the quiet happiness that comes from being blessed. The thoughts coming from the brain does not only constitute what you appear to be but also what you seem to experience, because what and where you experience to be is nothing but a construction of thoughts manufactured by the brain.

All the experiences that you believe to have and those you belive others to have are made by your brain. It stores the memories of them that you belive to constitute what you and others are. The appearance of you and others as substantial beings in a tangible world is, therefore, the brain and vice versa. This applies also to experiences of being spiritual.

To sum it up, the brain renders a self in which it installs a consciousness so the self can perceive itself to be a substantial being by having conscious experiences of the tangible world that the brain fabricates as if it is outside of the self. Thus the brain is not only the same as what you experience to be, but also the world experienced to be outside of you.

You try to restrict the only friend you have, namely the brain, by dividing the thoughts it produces into good and evil and then exclude those you judge as wrong by projecting them onto others. Thus you no longer perceive yourself to be the good and bad self that the brain has made, but a better one that is only good and made by you only. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Ultimately speaking, of course, you are not the brain or anything else because there is no more than that which is one and it takes more than one to be anything. Consequently, this article, just like what you appear to be, is nothing disguised as something.

Trying to change something, therefore, is like changing the colour of your hair. Though the new tone makes you look different, nothing has changed. The original colour remains the same. Nevertheless, more or less everybody believes that painting their self with a new colour will make it able to provide them with more money, power, love, peace, silence or whatever they think is going to make them more special and, therefore, more appreciated.

Control is the fear of not being good enough to be affirmed as someone in the world of something.

This wish to change ourselves often starts in our early childhood, where we learned that when we changed our appearance into something our parents considered to be more lovable, we would get more attention and hence a feeling of being more loved. Consequently, most have concluded, that by controlling themselves, they can manipulate others into liking them and thus control them as well.

Several events can have led to this conclusion. Maybe your parents tried to make you go to the toilet before you were ready. In an attempt to please them and appear to be the child they want, you decided to control your urination by tightening the muscles in the loin. But the price of getting their ´love´ was that the premature constriction of the muscles blocked the natural flow of the biological system in your body, so the communication between it and the brain was disrupted.

As the brain since then has been cut off from the biological system, it has not been able to support the body. Thus it tries itself to fix its problems. The blockage in the loin, for example, it attempts to solve by balancing it with another tension in the shoulder, neck or jaw. Especially the latter because that makes it possible to keep a specific expression in place as if you are happy with those around you.

The life of a self has been planned by the brain, and it cannot be altered. But the perception of it can be changed, so it seems to be in charge of itself. That is done by making up stories that in retrospect seems to establish everything is going according to the plan of the self. And if not, the brain is blamed. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

But this further disrupts the communication between the brain and the body, and though you may get relief in the upper body from injections, massage and whatnot, the relaxation will not last long because the hardened loin will tighten the upper body again in an attempt to balance out the stiffness in the lower body.

Hence you will never feel the automatic healing that comes from the natural flow of a biological system adequately hooked up with the brain. Instead, you get to feel the destruction that a body disconnected from the brain entails – especially when trying to fix this where the pain is experienced to come from in the body rather than where it actually originates, namely in the perception of yourself as not good enough.

In other words, when the body is not used as a means to hide your inferiority, it will not be damaged from your attempt to control life and, therefore, not obstruct the natural flow of the biological system. Consequently, it can be used by the brain to heal the body whenever it has a physical problem.

But if the body has been used as a means to hide your feelings of rejection, it may be helpful to relieve the pain that this has caused in the body with massage or pills, for example, so it does not distract you from correcting the misperception that has caused it. Having done that, you feel good enough as you are so you do not perceive parts of your personality to be something bad that you must hide.

A straightforward way to correct your perception is to perceive any experience as it is what it is. Shit happens or so what will also do. Those perceptions reveal that everything is good enough as it is. Since the darkest experience, therefore, feels just as entertaining as the lightest one, you are set free and so are those you judged to inflict it upon you. This feels like forever having your favourite food, or the best sex, for example.

It is probably even easier to not correct the misperception and just add another perception on top of it that says it is what is because that takes the sting out of it.

Ultimately, of course, the solution is to undo the belief in being somebody, as that means there is nobody to misinterpret anything. However, hack #4.3 To be a basic self is to be good enough is mainly about having a good time while you have that belief undone, so we return to the script of the brain.

There is nothing to be found in Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings. That is why reading them will hack the belief in being someone definitive. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

As the script is fixed, the exact same tensions in the loin would have occurred, whether or not you in your childhood perceived that you had to adjust yourself to the likings of your parents to get their love. But had you perceived yourself to be good enough as you were, your perception would have been in sync with the script of the brain and the tension in the loin, not a psychosomatic but a physical problem. And the latter is much easier to deal with.

The above explanation of cause and effect is, therefore, not entirely correct. Also, the script allows you to choose if you go right or left, for example. However, just like in a videogame, the subsequent events are fixed.

This is not meant to be an explanation that makes ends meet. Nothing adds up in a world where there seems to be more than one, because it is an illusion. There is no more than that which is one since it is formless and therefore endless. That is what the explanations in Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings are meant to illustrate. That is why they only are beneficial if used to expose that every experience is a fantasy made by the brain to make you feel entertained by perceive them to be tangible and thus you to be substantial.

This explanation is, of course, also a fantasy, and so is the idea that somebody is making or having it. Just like nobody, in particular, is causing or having a dream, and there is nothing in it.

Hence Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings is not a new philosophy with the answers to the problems of the world or why and how we appear to be there as if we are separated from each other. There is no answer to that or anything else than every answer is an illusion because there is no more than that which is one, and it takes more than one to answer a question.

Ultimately speaking, therefore, it does not matter if you are in sync with the script of the brain and thus a happy and basic self as scripted to be, or perceive the script in a such a way that that you appear to be more exceptional than scripted and thus a special self who independently of the script looks for its own happiness. But as happiness comes from being in sync with the script, the special self never finds it. Read more about this in hack #4.2 The basic self versus the special one.

The brain has installed an awareness in the self it has created, so it can have conscious experiences of being someone. The consciousness, however, does not accept to be a product of the brain, so it makes a perception of itself in which it is independent of the brain and part of something better and bigger. But as this perception is created with the thoughts produced the brain, it is self-deception. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

That is why, in the context of the world where we appear to be, everything appears to be much easier when the perception is in sync with the script of the brain. Hardly any thoughts are needed for that, and as they compile themselves from the pool of thoughts, the brain has made for this (read more about that here), there are no stray thoughts to disturb you. But to make a perception where you appear to be more special than the basic self, which the brain has created requires much effort.

You must seek out special thoughts to make this happen and doing so they start to scamper around and fight each other, which feels stressing – especially as it affects how you see the world. The special self, therefore, concludes it is best to get rid of some or all of the thoughts or at least slow them down via meditation or something else, that supports the perception the special self is in control.

This, however, enhances the problem, which is that the special self perceives itself to be the master and the brain its servant. But it is the other way around. So if it honours the brain for producing the experiences it has of being someone by perceiving them as they are and not as it wants them to be, happiness comes all by itself. Actually so much, that the few thoughts required for having a perception in sync with the brain are unnoticed. See also Without the noise of thoughts.

In short, if we do not try to edit the perception the brain automatically generates of ourselves as a servant of the brain, we are in sync with it and thus receive so many shots of happiness that we feel loved and love everybody as ourselves (read more about that here).

As that means you do not spend time looking for happiness, you can read Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings without looking for something in them to make you happy. Hence the duality hacks reveal the nothingness of what you believe to be will be while and/or after reading about them.

Many try to solve the feeling of not being good enough by finding somebody who will admire them because they mistake that for being loved. Others may clean the house, go shopping, eat, smoke, have sex, or whatever makes them forget what they feel. And some may try to resolve feeling inferior by making others wrong.

But none of this works, because the feeling of failing arises from the way you perceive the world should respond to you and not on how it actually does it. Hence not feeling good enough is a matter of perception.

This mispercection can be found by walking down memory lane. But it probably takes a long time and you may miss it. Fortunately, you can correct the misperception right now by perceiving it as it is what it is. It takes the sting out of it so whatever appeared to make wrong does not affect you and you the next time you by reflex make a perception that implies you are not good enough can laugh because it is what it is.

Most often, the tensions in the body are caused by your attempt to control it through mental concepts of how to be. The body fights back with a blockage in the forehead and then extends it to other parts of itself. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

APPENDIX:
The body does not want to be used as a means to manifest your mental ideas of spirituality, for example to be balanced, centred and connected with higher consciousness, so it fights your domination by tightening up itself.

The symptoms of that, experienced to be here and there in the body, can, therefore, only be healed when you withdraw your mental dominance of the body. This is done by perceiving your misguidance of the body as it is what it is. That takes the power out of it so you cannot help but laugh. You may also cry. But that is how it should be. Everything in a world of duality comes in pairs, and they are equally entertaining when both parts are perceived as it is what it is.

This makes you feel complete but maybe also drained because you are not pushing the body to the extremes anymore to feel young and more special. But then again, since everything comes in pairs, you do not only feel exhausted but also refreshed. At first, though, you may feel more exhausted than refreshed. But perceiving it as it is what it is, one morning you wake up as if you are in a new body.


*) Read more about the rogue consciousness of the basic self in


NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.3 To be a basic self is to be good enough, which is still in the process of being written.

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