You undo the belief in duality by enjoying it, Part 2

In our childhood, we learned to alter our emotions, so they fit into the collectively agreed way of feeling something specific. But no feeling is definitive because, in a world of duality, everything comes in pairs. Not interfering with this twofoldness, you feel satisfied by the interaction of love and hate, for example. But you feel disappointed if you split the dualism to get a distinct feeling of either love or hate. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

This article is a continuation of You undo the belief in duality by enjoying it, Part 1. Hence it is about the satisfaction of duality revealed by the perception ´it is what it is,´ and how being so satisfied, eventually, makes you forget to remember duality.

The togetherness of twofoldness undoes the separateness of specialness.

Our perception of the world is often based on one that we made years ago. In the case of Alexius, his childhood was full of frightening experiences so to get rid of the fear in himself, he projected it onto something he judged as horrible in the world considered to be outside of himself.

Later on, this method became his way of separating himself from unpleasant feelings inside him. He removed them from his awareness by projecting them onto something outside that he classified as horrible. Apart from making him feel better, he also felt like being in control of his life. Especially because he got rid of his affectionate feelings as well by projecting them onto something outside of himself, that he decided to see as wonderful.

When you do not try to hide sexual lust, grievances, envy, anger, negativity or whatever you consider to be politically incorrect, your thoughts and feelings regarding this are revealed to come in pairs. Negative thoughts, for example, comes paired with positivite ones, and since you are in a world of duality, you feel as entertained by this polarity is as any other pair of duality.

The more you experience everything in pairs, the less dangerous it is to be angry, for example. Actually, you feel relieved because it is complemented with calmness.

But after he became someone who is to be compared to the enlightenment of that which is one for about 50 years ago (see hack #6.1 From the inner senses through a black hole into that which is one), his single-minded perception of something as either horrible or wonderful became two-fold. Out of the inner unpleasantness came pleasantness and vice versa. Although this polarity immediately made him feel better, he did not hold onto that, but to the interplay of pleasantness and unpleasantness. It made him feel complete and not fragmented like when he insisted on dividing the pairs of duality into singular points of views.

The higher you aim, the lower you must prepare to go, in a world of duality, everything comes in pairs of opposing elements.

Nevertheless, out of habit, his old single-minded point of view is often the first choice when he is confronted with something new. But right away, he remembers, in a world of duality, everything comes in pairs of opposing elements that define each other. Then, as from an invisible crack in his conditioned feeling of disgust, a sense of delight unfolds.

He may not notice that the interaction of this polarity soon fades out because it sets off the experience of other pairs of duality, for example, humility and boldness, serenity and lust, calmness and confusion, union and separation, and so on. This is so satisfactory that he does not sense when the interplay of one pair of duality is over, and another one sets off. The beginning and end is just another interaction of duality that makes him feel complete.

Not trying to control the future, thoughts become unimportant. Hence they turn into some insignificant noise in the background.

Alexius taking a break in the primordial forest of La Gomera. He does not have names for his dualistic experience of being there. But being someone who is somewhere is enough to feel the togetherness of twofoldness. And feeling that you, eventually, forget what and where you are. Thus the enlightenment of that which is one is bid welcome. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Nor does he usually remember the names of the polarities he encounters because going with the flow of them, duality does not have to be ratified through an inner talk (read more about that here), so thoughts are reduced to insignificant jabber in the background (read more about that here). Hence they are so out-of-the-way that he cannot find words to describe the pairs of duality he experiences. Not a problem, though. One does not need to label the sides of a coin, for example, to sense its twofoldness.

In a world of duality, a holistic experience is not singular but dualistic. In non-duality there is nothing to experience, as it takes more than one to be aware of something.

In other words, even though the experience of being someone in a world of duality ultimately speaking is speculative (read more about that here), within the apparent reality of duality, you feel incomplete if you separate the elements making up the pairs. And you feel complete when you go with the interaction of them – just like you feel fulfilled from the interplay of breathing in and out. That is if you do not try to do not break off this flow of duality through yoga, for example, by dividing the breath into specific sections.

You do not have to be someone who is to be compared to the enlightenment of that which is one to feel completed by the interplay of duality. All you need is to perceive your specific opinion of something as ´it is what it is.´ This reveals the other side of your postulate, wherefore you get the interplay of polarity – for example happy/sad or angry/calm – and thus the satisfaction of duality. This is what we explore after the below note about the enlightenment of that which is one.

Bidding welcome the enlightenment of that which is one is a bit like being at the point of orgasm. There is nothing else that matters. But whereas an orgasm is driven by the desire for something, the absence of it is the propellant of the enlightenment of that which is one.

This does not mean, you must get rid of all desires but that when there is no intention of being and seeing something specific, you do not fend off the enlightenment of that which is one.

Practically speaking, that means you are not sure whether you see a traffic light or a person, for example. And you do not care because you are going nowhere. Read more about that here.

To justify your hatred, something interpreted to be outside of you is judged as vicious. But perceiving this judgment as ´it is what it is,´ you see, in a world of duality, nothing is singular. Everything comes in pairs of opposites. Viciousness is complemented by gentleness so they can define each other. Just like hate defines love, and you, therefore, only are genuinely affectionate when your hatred is acknowledged. Since this experience of twofoldness makes you satisfied, there is no need to search for more and thus not to believe that you are in a world where there seems to be more than one. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

If you do not play the game of duality, you cannot have it undone.

Twofoldness is what you get, regardless of how you apply the perception ´it is what it is,´ if you have realised, you only feel complete when your experiences are dual. Have this not been realised, your purpose of perceiving your experiences as ´it is what it is´ most likely is to uphold a singular point of view by suppressing what you feel about them. So until you are more in the flow of twofoldness, it is not your experience of something you perceive as ´it is what it is,´ but the specific meaning, you decide your response to that experience should have. You are, however, so used to hide the interpretation of your responses so it may take a while before you notice you always choose a single-minded meaning of your them.

But when you perceive the definitive meaning you assigned to your response as ´it is what it is,´ it opens up, and something experienced as diametrically opposed unfolds from inside of it. As that is not a singular but dualistic experience, it does not appear to be exclusively right or wrong, and thus neither to generate pleasure or worry. Instead, it brings about a satisfaction that remains no matter what happens because it does not depend on something specific.

If you interpret something as beautiful, you will also see something deemed to be ugly. Opposing contrasts are the way of duality. But you are not going to feel the satisfaction that comes from twofoldness if you try to correct or remove the ugliness so you can hold onto a singular view of beauty.

That does not mean you do not respond with sadness if you feel rejected by somebody. But since your reaction is perceived as ´it is what it is,´ it does not settle into a definite feeling of grief. You feel glad as well. If you accept the interplay of the opposing feelings in this polarity and that it soon is replaced by another twofoldness, you are in the flow of duality and thus feel satisfied.

Had you not perceived your response as ´it is what it is,´ but made up a story in which you seemed exclusively sad in the way you assume others expect heartache to show, what you believe in feeling is solely appearance. Maybe shame is what you actually feel, but since it is suppressed, you cannot experience the interaction of shame and shameless.

Hence you do not get the satisfaction of duality but the dissatisfaction of separation. This disappointment most try to cut off from their awareness by hiding it behind a sensitive part of the body, the chest for example. And when a psychological problem in the future triggers the hidden dissatisfaction, they interpret the resulting feeling of unease in the chest as a physical issue. Thus their past, as well as current dissatisfaction, is hidden from their awareness. Read more about that in hack #4.3 To be a basic self is to be good enough.

The perception ´it is what it is´ does not set you free from anger, for example, but free to experience it paired with delight. In other words, this perception does not make you free from duality but free to enjoy it. Actually, so much that you forget to remember it. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

There are, of course, instances where you feel relieved when someone leaves you and might want to extend that feeling. Hence you combine it with a sensitive part of the body, the chest for example. Thereupon you assume any physical sensation in the chest is caused by a psychological feeling, namely the sense of relief. But since that feeling is defined by pain, and you have excluded that, you cannot genuinely feel relieved. Read more about that in Those looking for peace are full of shit.

You must judge something to be inharmonious to know when you experience something harmonious. But as most people thereafter exclude the inharmonious, there is not something to define the harmonious experience. Consequently, what they get is an intellectual idea about it.

What you believe in feeling is the concept of being relieved. It says you smile when you talk about something unpleasant that has ended. Hence this is what you do to convince yourself and others you feel relieved. Or maybe you compose a story in which you appear to have been freed from something terrible like your friends expects this to show, so they can confirm your appearance displays relief.

To sum up, when your reaction to something is perceived as ´it is what it is,´ it is not limited to be a single-minded interpretation like shyness, for example. Instead, you go back and forth between that and its contrast, confidence, so the opposing elements can define each other, and, therefore, establish each other as genuine feelings.

Being amused by this potency, you go along with the game of duality. Thus the polarity of shyness and confidence soon is replaced by another enjoyable experience of dualism. And so it goes until you feel so euphoric, that there is no need for more, wherefore the belief in being and having more than that which is one is undone.

You should, therefore, not use the perception ´it is what it is´ if you do not want to have the belief in being and having more than that which is one is undone. Instead, you should use the perception ´I know what it is.´ To make that perception work, though, you must ignore the counterpart of what you claim to know. So if you, for example, want to appear as if you know the way, you must hide feeling lost from your attitude of knowing where to go.

When you always perceive your reaction to something as ´it is what it is,´ nothing seems to be wrong. Thus every moment is the perfect moment. This has nothing to do with the enlightenment of that which is one. Nevertheless, it paves the way. When nothing seems to be wrong, there is not something to change. Hence your story unfolds as planned and so does the enlightenment of that which is one, as it is part of it. Not in a sense, though, that the story built up to it. On the contrary, when the story seems to fall apart and you do not try to prevent that or stop being upset about it, the enlightenment of that which is one set in. Read more in HACK #6-7, Inner senses, enlightenment and glimpses of it. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

This, however, makes you feel you have lost something. And no matter where you look, you do not see it because you keep insisting ´I know what it is.´ But if you, instead, would say ´it is what it isyour single-minded opinion of the way to go is going to reveal that it is complemented with feeling lost. And since you are in a world of duality, this twofoldness makes you feel complete, wherefore nothing seems to be missing.

You could also have said ´dunno what it is,´ which makes you forget about duality. This does not mean that your experiences are transformed. Change is a concept of duality. But it means there is nobody to confirm your experiences are something. Hence you do not get the satisfaction of duality but the bliss of nothing.

If you remain in this state for more than 20 minutes, 45 at most, the brain gives up fabricating experiences as if you are someone having them (read more about that here) because you do not establish them as something by you. Hence the brain falls into a coma, whereafter all experiences, including that someone has them, is gone.

You do not have to use the exact same words for these three perceptions to play the game of duality, deny it, take a break, or totally leave it. Instead of saying ´it is what it is,´ you could say ´shit happens,´ or ´so what,´ for example. You can read more about those perceptions in hack #4.3 Being a self or no-self.


Since your internal comments generally only have one meaning and, therefore, leave out its complementary part, you appear to judge yourself and/or others for missing something. Hence you get the urge to improve yourself and/or others. But it is nobody than yourself who has made those single-minded comments that seem to set the rules for what is right and wrong. Fortunately, there is no need to identify these rules to set yourself and others free from them. You simply perceive your present opinion about something, for example what you are reading now, as ´it is what it is.´

This reveals that this opinion is not singular but dualistic. So if you, for example, judged there was something wrong in what you read, you see that it is paired with something right. Or perhaps you do not catch the elements of this pair of duality because their interaction, like breathing in and out, feels so natural that you laugh, while new pairs of duality, like waves in the ocean, hastily but without haste wash away your narrow-minded opinions.

In the flow of duality, you do not have to think about everything as you used to do. Just like you do not think about how to digest the food you eat. It happens by itself. And so does preparing the food you have chosen to eat when you are in the flow of duality. However, not in the systematised way you are used to but in the apparently chaotic way of nature. It does not plant seeds in rows to get the most in return but enthusiastically throw them here and there to see what occurs.

Although making food, therefore, may appear more chaotic than you are used to, you can count on having fun and always experience something new. That being said, there may be a period of transition where you try to hold unto your old single-minded ways of arranging things and are about to cry when they do not work.

The solution is not to try to stop this but stand by your one-pointedness so it can be perceived as ´it is what it is,´ and thus be revealed as twofold. This is what makes you feel whole in a world of duality. Eventually, so wholly that you fully see it is appearance and not reality – just like anything else in a world of duality.

NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.3 Being a self or no-self.