You must play the game of duality to have it undone [draft]

It is not only Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings that talk about the body being used to hide repressed emotions. In Bioenergetics (see Wikipedia about that), it is the theory that you store negative experiences in the body, which, therefore, is altered. Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings says that this may seem so, but physiology and psychology do not mix, so the connection is thought up (see hack #4.3 The toxic mix of physical and non-physical issues). The way to undo this imagination, and thus issues believed to be psychosomatic, is to follow the duality flow described in this article or elsewhere in hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Alexius is still in the process of exploring how to communicate this hack. Hence, you might be better off reading another one. However, you are welcome to take your chances.

This is a continiution of of The togetherness of twofoldness undoes the separateness of specialness. Thus it is about the perception ´it is what it is,´ that reveals the duality flow. It is so vitalising that you, eventually, forget to define yourself as someone in a world of duality.

As everything is twofold in a world of duality, a singular impression, for example falling in love, is fake. Thus you feel disconnected when you hold onto a feeling of falling in love. No worries, this is easily corrected. First, you perceive your fixed impression as ´it is what it is.´ Then, in a state of expectation calling for nothing specific, your special feeling turns inside out and unveils its counterpart inside it. In this case, love gently opens and out of it comes hatred. But just like breathing in and out does not happen simultaneously, love and hate are not felt at the same time.

Since the love you feel is defined by hate, and it is determined by love, you see there is no true love without hatred and vice versa. Should you, out of habit, suppress hate so you can hold onto a specific memory of love, you feel disconnected until you remember that to feel connected, love and hatred must be coupled.

If you physically and/or mentally have pumped up your appearance, the way to set yourself free from the stiffness in your body used to maintain your magnified image, is to perceive your reaction to your rigid body as ´it is what it is.´ This reveals your response is twofold. Hence there is not a particular response to uphold the inflexibility of the body. And since it also reveals that being special is coupled with a sense of nothingness, you cannot help but laugh.

You may not observe that love turns into its counterpart hate, just like you may not notice breathing in is repaced by breathing out. Yet it happens anyway. In other words, you probably need time to acknowledge the constant movement between the opposing poles of duality – in this case, love and hate. And you most likely need more time before you sense the duality flow, that, like rolling waves without highs and lows, moves throughout your body (read more about that here). Nevertheless, since the perception ´it is what it is´ syncs you with the duality, you immediately feel connected.

That something is ugly is not a fact but the way you have decided to perceive it. This singular Interpretation prevents you from seeing it as it is because everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

But this perception does not make you feel connected if you assume your response to an experience is the same as the experience. For example, when you see a picture of your hometown and mistake your nostalgic reaction to your past for the image, you will use the perception ´it is what it is´ to hide this mix-up, so nostalgia is not your reaction but what the image is. In other words, you use the perception ´it is what it is´ to suppress your sentimental response, so you can appear cool. But nothing is middle-of-road. Everything is two-fold in a world of duality. Therefore, since your perceived neutrality distorts duality, you feel incomplete.

To hide this, you always avoid situations that could initiate concealed emotions of shortcomings. If, despite that, a repressed sense of failing manages to enter your consciousness, you quickly rise above it by meditating, drinking, shopping, or working a lot. Another way is to blame somebody for making you feel imperfect or hide this feeling in a psychosomatic disorder like vertigo. Read about dizziness in ´What if…?´ versus ´it is what it is´.

When you are willing to accept that everything is coupled with its counterpart in a world of duality, sadness is naturally complemented with gladness, whereafter it automatically is replaced by another polarity. This interplay of opposites is what makes you feel complete when you appear to be in a world of duality.

You are better off, though, if you do not prevent suppressed feelings from popping up. This is because everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality, so if feeling sad is not covered up, it paves the way for gladness. And since you are in a world of duality, the experience of twofoldness makes you feel complete, whereas the experience of singularity makes you feel incomplete.

It is like taking a ride on a rollercoaster. If you only go up or down, the trip is disappointing, whereas going both ways is thrilling. In other words, when you accept the constant interaction between up and down, you laugh when you feel on top because you are not afraid of falling down. And you cry when you feel low without being fearful of being stuck there. Thus you have a splendid time in a world of duality regardless of feeling up or down.

Contrasts are the way of duality. So if something is interpreted as beautiful, you got to see the ugliness in it as well. Going with this polarity, you feel complete. But if you try to correct or remove the ugliness to uphold a particular view of beauty, you feel incomplete. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

To resume, it is not your experience of something that you perceive as ´it is what it is´ to feel the completeness of twofoldness. Instead, it is the specific response you determine your experience entails. So if you decide your reaction to having been rejected is sadness, you perceive that as ´it is what it is.´ This reveals your response is not one-sided but twofold. Thus sadness does not settle into definite grief but gently opens up and shows it has gladness inside it.

In other words, when the definitive meaning you have assigned to a response is perceived as ´it is what it is,´ it is complemented by its opposite. Hence your reaction does not entail loneliness but togetherness. This twofoldness occurs as automatic as breathing in is followed by breathing out – and it feels as satisfying. Accepting this polarity, it is soon replaced by another. And since you, therefore, are in the duality flow, you feel satisfied.

The perception ´it is what it is´ does not set you free from sadness, for example, but free to experience it paired with gladness. In other words, this perception does not make you free from duality but free to enjoy it. Actually, so much that you forget to remember it. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

But if you did not perceive the definitive meaning you assigned to your response as ´it is what it is,´ you are not in the duality flow. Instead, you are in the story you have made to illustrate you feel sad in the way heartache is supposed to show. However, since that feeling is suppressed by your story, the sadness you put on view is fake.

Therefore, since you ignore the interaction of sadness and gladness, you do not get the satisfaction of the duality flow but the frustration of fabrication. Most tries to cut off this disappointment from their awareness by hiding it behind a physical problem in the chest, for example. So when a psychological problem in the future triggers this hidden frustration, the resulting feeling of unease in the chest is interpreted as a physical issue. Hence the past discontent remains hidden from the awareness. Read more about that in hack #4.3 The toxic mix of physical and non-physical issues.

There are, of course, instances where you feel relieved when someone leaves you. If you want to extend that specific feeling, you combine it with a sensitive body part, like the chest. Thereupon you assume any physical sensation in the chest is caused by a psychological feeling, namely the sense of relief. But since this feeling is defined by pain and it has been suppressed to feel specifically relieved, this is not what you sense.

If you have not judged something as inharmonious, you cannot know when you experience harmony. But as most people suppress the inharmonious, they have nothing to define a harmonious experience. Consequently, what they get is an intellectual idea about being in balance.

When you think about your friends´ opinions about what goes on, it seems like a specific emotion is brought to mind. Especially if you spin a story about the feeling that you tell in a severe tone of voice enhanced by body language illustrating this feeling. Women often use this trick to appear as if they feel something distinctive, although their emotions are suppressed. Most men, on the other hand, think it is great having their feelings cut off. Hence they are not distracted by them. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

What you believe in feeling is an intellectual construction that resembles being relieved, when you put on a sad face and tell others about something unpleasant, whereafter you smile to show you have been freed. Maybe you add a phrase from a song to strengthen the impression of relief. If this conjured image of relaxation convinces others that you are relieved, you believe in genuinely feeling that. However, what you feel is, just like the powers superheroes seem to have, make-believe.

To repeat, when your reaction to something is perceived as ´it is what it is,´ it is not limited to be a single-minded feeling like shyness. Instead, you also get its contrast, confidence, so those contrasting feelings can define each other and, therefore, be genuinely felt.

Being amused by this, you go with the duality flow. Hence the contrast of shyness and confidence soon is replaced by other polarities. You may not catch the names making up those polarities because their interaction makes you feel so complete that you do not care about such details.

What you believe to be, only exist in the impression you imagine to have on the world outside of you. And it only seems real because of what you imagine it does to you.

This, of course, only applies as long as you believe to be someone in a world of duality. In non-duality, it is impossible to be complete because it requires more than one to be something, and oneness is undivided.

 

bottle-up-emotionsHow to suppress feelings?
If you are not already aware, here are a few samples:

  • Talking about what others do or say instead of how that makes you feel.
  • Trying to help others to remove the attention from you and how you feel yuorself.
  • Falling in love hides the self-hatred inside.
  • Talking about metaphysically things instead of acknowledging, what you feel.
  • Being upset about something on behalf of others.
  • Meditating, chanting, praying or doing similar things to fend off what you feel.
  • Finding psychological, or any other kinds of explanation for what you feel.
  • Eating or drinking to suppress ones´ feelings.
  • Trying to prove a factual point to hide what you feel.
  • Following ideas for living in the now, or trying to live by any other totalirian concept.
  • Blaming others and justify your feelings by them.
  • Much planning and control.
  • Constantly looking for new things to buy or change.
  • Trying to always be in a good mood.
  • Working a lot and for instance clean your home, when you are upset.
  • Reading or playing computer games regularly.
  • Having revenge sex.
  • Staging yourself on Facebook – perhaps to get as many likes and followers as possible.
  • Publish photos of your happy and shiny life on Instagram.
  • Quoting others to prove you are right.
  • Keep imagining how to solve things or just making up stories.
  • Sitting with crossed legs, locking the knees by bending them backwards, raising one or both shoulders or pushing them forward.
  • Holding back the breath.
  • Assuming to know what is right and wrong.
  • Concluding this and that.

And how to not suppress your feelings?
In the duality flow feelings become very defined, but only in relation to their counterpart. Therefore, since they are not definitive but relative, you have no specific feelings to suppress.


*) This is not to say that you never need to think ahead to get something done. But that thoughts regarding that come to you automatically when you are in the duality flow.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality. It is a rough draft that will be continuously updated.

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