Notes on the duality flow [draft]

Comparing a desire for something with the drawback of getting it is a typical interplay of opposites in a world of duality. Going with this interaction, you feel complete and, therefore, indifferent to the outcome. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

When your attitude to something is single-minded, you get a pleasurable peak experience of something specific. But as everything comes in pairs in a world of duality, it will sooner or later be replaced by displeasure. On the other hand, if your approach is dualistic, pleasure and displeasure is not disconnected but in constant interaction. Thus you are in the duality flow.

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The duality flow is not about harmony and balance but the resilient relation between opposites. For example, a yoyo will not wind up without a springy drive.

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You either breathe in or out. One excludes the other. Yet, the two different ways pave the way for each other. This is how the duality flow works. However, the special self prefers to be singular. But it is like avoiding breathing out. It does not work. In other words, when the special self promotes itself as to be only positive, spiritual or whatnot, it is fake.

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In the duality flow, you do not have to choose between good and evil. They compliment each other. Therefore, since one is not better than the other, there is nothing to judge and thus not something to establish fear as a feeling on its own. Hence you see it is exposed to be complemented with trust.

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Being in the duality flow, you can forget about what you used to be. That was based on single-minded concepts. In the flow, you are not someone in particular but the constant movement between opposites.

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Since the perception ´it is what it is´ reveals that every experience is twofold and you are in a world of duality, it brings about completeness. However, as everything comes in pairs, it also results in incompleteness. No worries, you are neither whole nor fragmented but in the motion between these opposites – just like the thrill of a see-saw comes from the constant movement between those opposites.

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That something is ugly is not a fact, but the way you have decided to perceive it. This singular Interpretation prevents you from seeing it as it is. Everything comes in pairs of opposites in a world of duality, so what you see is as beautiful as it is ugly. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Having established ’it is what it is´ as your default perception, you are always in the interaction of opposing emotions and thus feeling completed by the duality flow, instead of being unfulfilled by feelings separated from their complementary part. Read more about the perception ´it is what it is´ in hack #4.2 The brain´s script and how to perceive it to feel happy.

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Everything comes in pairs of opposing elements in a world of duality. Thus trying to split them into singular parts and hold onto one of them is impossible. Yet, it is possible to think you can do that by projecting negativity onto others, so you appear to be only positive. However, this mental stance does not change that you still have negative as well as positive thoughts. Hence you feel frustrated. On the other hand, following the duality flow brings about satisfaction because the constant interaction of opposing elements is the natural state of duality.

If you are into being and having the best, the duality flow experience will probably be a continuous movement between the best and the worst. Should you want to be spiritual, the motion is most likely between that and materialistic. The duality flow could also go between hope and hopelessness or between whatever you hold dear and its opposite. Read more about your personal polarity in You undo the belief in duality by enjoying it, Part 3.

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We usually do not think about how to digest the food we eat because it happens by itself. In the duality flow, you do not even have to plan the preparation of a meal.* It may not occur, though, in the systematised way you are used to but in the spontaneous way of nature. It does not plant seeds in rows to get the most in return but enthusiastically throws the seeds everywhere to see what turns up. Nor does it build something in a totalitarian way, such as Bauhaus or construct a meal in a categorical style like Nordic. To make long short, it is never definitive.

Therefore, although preparing the dinner seems more unpredictable when following the duality flow,** you can count on having fun and experiencing something that goes with the present moment. The latter is what you will miss if you try to repeat it another day. That being said, there may be a period of transition where you try to hold onto your old single-minded ways of perceiving your cooking. When it does not work and thus triggers old feelings of despair, you are about to cry.

The solution is not to stop the discomfort but to stand by it, so the definitive meaning you have decided it has can be perceived as ´it is what it is.´ This reveals it is not singular but twofold. And that is what makes you feel complete in a world of duality. Eventually, so much that you realise you are nothing but appearance. Hence there does not seem to be someone to hide that which always was and will be there, namely non-duality.

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What you need to prepare to go somewhere comes automatically in the duality flow. Should things not proceed as you expect, you are not afraid of getting upset because you know everything comes in pairs. Therefore, since your concern is complemented with unconcern, the duality flow goes on. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The satisfaction you get from being in the duality flow is not like the one you get from something perceived as specific. You are always afraid of losing that, whereas it is impossible to lose the duality flow.

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Since everything comes in pairs in a world of duality, there is no sense in searching for something specific. This is such a relief.

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If you want the satisfaction of the duality flow, it is essential not to focus on anything in particular. The same applies if you like to undo the belief in duality. Therefore, since the perception ´it is what it is´ cancels out anything specific, you kill two birds with one stone by applying it.

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None of the opposing elements in the pairs of duality is essential. It is their interaction that matters because it makes up the duality flow. This you will want to follow when you are tired of feeling incomplete.

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When you feel you have nowhere to go and do not insist on this being a definitive feeling but counteract it with going everywhere, you are in the duality flow. The same applies if you are in the interplay of irritation and relaxation. However,  the duality flow is not about the opposing elements in a pair of duality but their interaction. That is what makes you feel complete – just like it is the interplay of breathing in and out that makes you feel content.

And just like none of the opposing elements in the breath works by themselves, nor do any other elements in the pairs of duality. Hence you cannot always feel positive. The feeling only works when contrasted by negativity. So if you are not in the constant interplay of positivity and negativity, what you believe in feeling when you claim to be positive is a concept conjured up by suppressing negativity via meditation, for example. This is like separating yourself from either breathing in or out. You need them both.

To make long short, the solution to everything, in a world of duality, is to go with the flow of the opposing elements that make up the pairs of duality. You hook up with the duality flow by perceiving your reaction to something as ´it is what it is

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Going with the duality flow, hate does not make you frown but smile :) Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Alexius, a long time ago, conditioned himself to hide his sorrow behind justified anger and disgust. That changed when he did not try to hide or rationalise his grief but perceived his reaction to it as ´it is what it is,´ This revealed that inside his deep sorrow, a little boy was floating on waves of nectar.

Therefore, since he saw his sorrow was paired with mellowness, he did not try to fence off the grief anymore to feel good. Actually, feeling sad automatically triggered the happiness inside it. Hence feeling happy/sad became his basic experience of the duality flow.

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Importance is a single-minded notion that has been separated from its buddy, worthlessness. Thus it brings about loneliness. But in the duality flow, importance interacts with worthlessness, wherefore you get togetherness.

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It is not a matter of the body relaxing or not, but how you perceive your reaction to it. If your reaction is that you feel troubled, you see your body as the source of that. Yet there is nothing in the body you can make better to not feel disturbed by it because the problem is not there. But if your reaction to the body is perceived as ´it is what it is,´ troubled is contracted with untroubled. And since the idea of a body is a product of duality, this twofoldness makes it feel at home.

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Having followed the duality flow for some time, the specific state of mind you used to conjure up to feel at ease is forever out of reach. Now everything is twofold. Sadness interacts with gladness and death with life. What this means, you do not know. Nor do you care because you feel complete. Hence there is no need for a specific state of mind or perspective to escape feeling disturbed.

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In the duality flow, you feel complete, so although you may seem as clumsy as before, it does not make you feel wrong.

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It is relaxing and energising, not to control your appearance but go with the duality flow – like you go with the flow of the waves when swimming. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

If you succeed in letting go of your hatred, you also get rid of the ability to feel love because, in a world of duality, everything comes in pairs of opposing elements that define each other. Hate defines love and vice versa, so you cannot have one without the other.

To get back the love you ignorantly discarded, you perceive  the hate you judge others have as ´it is what it is.´ This reveals hatred is coupled with love. Therefore, since you can only see what you have, there is love and hate in you. Read here about seeing your repressed emotions in others.

This revelation brings about other dualistic experiences, which generate even more. Actually, so many that you, eventually, forget to define yourself and others as somebody at all. Getting there is a process,*** but not being defined as someone in a dualistic world is instant because there is nothing between duality and non-duality. Actually, there is no duality since non-duality is formless and therefore endless.

Fortunately, there is nothing to hide that when you are not defined as someone in a world of duality.

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When you get angry, you say, »So what! Everything comes in pairs of opposites that define each other. That is the way of duality. Thus I will soon feel cool.« That is why there is no need for forgiveness or anything else to not feel bad.

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In the duality flow, your response to something is not singular but twofold. Therefore, as nothing is considered precisely right or wrong, there is not anything that seems to be a problem. But since most people are identified with their troubles, they want them to remain. Thus they fence off the duality flow by holding onto conditioned ways of responding. For example, they may perceive their reaction to this article as distinctly upsetting.

However, the cause of misery is the wish to be unique. To uphold the special picture you have painted of yourself, you must constantly separate yourself from everything judged as unfit. Hence you feel incomplete, whereas you feel complete in the duality flow.

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Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings logically concludes that since it takes more than one to have a shape, oneness is formless and therefore endless. Consequently, there is no more than that which is one. But since it takes more than one to read this, you believe it is possible to be and have more than one.

No worries, continuing as if you are someone in a world where there seems to be more than one, you honour your choice to believe this is possible. Hence you can choose to undo it. If you bid welcome the enlightenment of that which is one, this does not occur gradually but instantly (see hack #6.1 From the inward-facing senses through a black hole into that which is one).

But since the temporal length of an event is an illusion, you may take your time and begin following the duality flow so you can enjoy appearing to be and have more than that which is one, until this experience, like anything else that has a beginning, ends without any effort of yours.


*) This is not to say that you never need to think ahead to get something done. But thoughts for that come to you automatically when you are in the duality flow.

**) Actually, preparing something is not more unpredictable when following the duality flow. It only seems so because when you are not in the duality flow, you leave everything out of your perception of putting something together that does not confirm you are in control.

***) This process is not about avoiding the word ´I´ or stopping something else but gradually realising that the experience of being someone is fake – just like you do not turn aside cars and money in Monopoly, although nothing there is real.


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