Pretending is a way to reality

Pretending to be a special place in the world of music.

Pretending to be together in a world of music. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

It takes more than one to be something, and there is no more than that which is one since it is formless and therefore endless, so anything you believe in being is an illusion. This includes what you perceive to be spiritual. See All experiences are equally unreal.

In other words, since there is no life outside of that which is one, what you believe to be is as lifeless as the dolls in a dollhouse. Therefore, appearing to be someone definitive is make-believe. It is a fantasy in which you, like an actor, pretend to be what and where you are not.

Anything you believe in being, including being spiritual, is an illusion because it takes more than one to be something, and there is no more than that which is one. This includes believing to be spiritual. See All experiences are equally unreal.

That being said, nobody is making this fantasy. Like within the context of a world where there seems to be more than one, nobody is making the dreams you seem to have. And nobody, including you, is in those dreams, even though they appear to be in you.

Fortunately, pretending to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one does not seem to establish it as real because what and you pretend to be, you are not. Thus appearing to be there appears to entail happiness and not the sadness that comes from believing to be someone there.

What you pretend to depend on what you imagine to be expected from you and what you believe to be in it for you.

As a musician, you quickly learn what you need to pretend to get success. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Samples of unconsciously pretending to be someone definitive
When you look for a new home, you may imagine what kind of person who used to live in the places you see and what kind of person you would be if living there.

At work, you may pretend to be someone who fits in socially and/or professionally. But when not at work, you probably pretend to your own. And going to the disco, you most likely to be a party-goer.

If your kids are worried, you pretend everything is fine, and if they are naughty, you pretend something terrible will happen.

Being attracted by the look or the vibe of someone, you pretend the other one has exactly the personality that matches yours or that you are soulmates.

Making a pass on someone, you no doubt adjust your behaviour by what seems to turn the other on so you can pretend to be the person the other one wants.

Perhaps you imagine, while you read this, what kind of person you should pretend to be if you follow Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings, or if you are opposed to that.

To recommend you pretend to be someone definitive is to advocate something, everybody already does. Thus it might be more correct to suggest being aware of it.

Maybe only your body is having sex with your spouse. You just pretend to be there while thinking of somebody else. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

A sample of consciously pretending …
… that you may already know from your way as someone in a world where there seems to be more than one. You are having sex with your spouse, but only your body is there. You are fantasising about somebody else while you pretend to be with your spouse.

Knowing  a world where there seems to be more than one is make-believe, you have fun pretending to be there
You might be aware that you pretend to be someone you are not in encounters like the above. Most likely, however, you suppress that you always pretend to be what you are not – like you all the time do in a role-play, for example. And just like appearing to be someone in the world of a role-play is fun because you know it is make-believe, so is appearing to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one when you know it is fictional.

In other words, when you know the world is virtual, you know that everything – the energetic people in an advertisement for Coca-Cola, the glamourous rockstar, or the beautiful people on social media, for example – is all pretence. Thus you do not look for authenticity but the entertainment that comes from pretending to be what you are not.

To search for the truth in a game like Monopoly is meaningless. There is nothing to realise in its world, because you are not ´there´. But that you can realise. Likewise, when you believe to be in a world where there seems to be more than one.

And since you already know how to pretend to be a person in a make-believe world – just think about when you are on a dating site or social media, play a game or an air guitar – this is easy. Especially if you also keep reading Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings because they are not afraid to admit, they are just as illusionary as anything else in a world where there seems to be more than one, and thus the belief that you are someone there.

Just like it is just as illusionary to be a red or a blue car in Monopoly, for example, or how many scratches the vehicle gets. The damages are not real, and they do not change that which is. In other words, what you pretend to be, you are no, so that which is you remain unchanged, whether you pretend to be compassionate or merciless, for example. Here you can read more about not being in a game or anywhere.


It is not explainable why you experience to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one because to do so takes more than one and there is no more than that which is one since it is formless and therefore endless. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

If you are tired of the pretence and falseness, that appears to be in a world where there seems to be more than one and look for more authenticity, you deceive yourself. You would not experience to be someone if you want truthfulness.

In that case, there would be no experiences,  because that which is authentic cannot be known. It is that which is one and it takes more than one to be conscious of something.

Pretending to be what and where you are not is entertaining
It requires much control to uphold the belief that you are someone in a world where there seems to be more than one. So if you are fed up from being holed as someone definitive, you pretend to be that. It is so fun that there is no need for self-control.

Eventually, therefore, no belief appears to hide there never was and never will be more than that which cannot be believed as it takes more than one to do so, and it is that which is one which is formless and therefore endless.

Pretending is neither bad or good but the way to appear as someone in a make-believe world.

You may think pretending is a bad thing and that you better stop acting and find the real you so you can express that.

First of all: That which is you has nothing to express. It is formless and therefore endless, so there is nothing else and no one to communicate with.

Secondly: The oneness of that which is you cannot be found in a world defined by time and space. Nothing can be found in such a world but illusions, as there is no more than the formlessness of that which is you.

Pretending is neither bad nor good. It is just a tool that you use to appear where you are. You cannot be in the illusionary world of a video game, a movie, a book or a dream, but you can pretend to be there.

How you appear to be is not important when you do not believe that it is you

But whether you believe or pretend to be in the world of a book, it takes the same course, likewise, in a world where there seems to be more than one. The difference, though, between believing or pretending to be there is that you feel entertained regardless of the outcome in the case of the latter.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #1.3 Pretending to be someone definitive is liberation.

CANCELLEX Pretending is freedom from self-deception

 

 

Positive thinking is bullshit [DRAFT]

Negativity is just as needed as positivity. A computer, for example, only functions when connected to both the negative and positive poles in an electrical wire. Polarity is the name of the game, which you must adhere to if you want to be in a world of duality. Also, if you wish to leave this game, you cannot do that if you are not playing it. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

PART 1
If you edit the reaction to something to fit the image you have created of yourself, your concept of negativity and positivity tends to get sticky. Thus, after some time, negative thoughts and feelings bring about a constant notion of rejection and the positive ones of approval. Hence you probably avoid negative emotions and seek out positive ones. But just like an electrical wire needs the positive pole as much as the negative one, you need negative thoughts and feelings as much as positive ones to function in a world of duality.

Fortunately, you naturally get them both when not editing the response to your experiences. Therefore, as you do not need them to confirm you are unique, they only remain long enough for you to feel entertained by the interplay of negativity and positivity. Read more about sticky feelings in hack #4.3 The toxic mix of physical and non-physical issues. and about the interaction of opposites in hack #4.4 The duality flow goes to non-duality.

Being in sync with your reaction to something as it is and not as you think it should be is like taking a ride on a rollercoaster. You get the polarity of going up and down, but it happens so fast that the fear of going down and the thrill of going up is immediately forgotten. What is left is the same feeling you have after binge-watching a TV show, namely that you are blown out. Therefore, since you eventually forget to ask for more, the belief in being and having more than that which is one is undone.

In cyberspace you cannot get your hands on something physical. That is why nothing from the internet can be combined with the reality of physicality, except at a theoretically level. The same applies to spirituality in a physical world. It cannot be found there. Actually, spirituality and physicality, just like night and day, exclude each other.

So, in the context of the rollercoaster metaphor, the belief in a world of duality is not undone by being detached from the ride but stepping it up and take the full tour with eyes wide open and not holding back. Doing that, you may seem to boil over of hate when it goes down. But when the trip goes up again, you meet the buddy of hate, namely love. And as you do not hold back hatred when you go down, you get so much love going up that, sooner or later, there is no need for more, wherefore there does appear to be more that hides non-duality.

If you want positivity, you must also welcome negativity, as, in a world of duality, everything comes in pairs. In non-duality, you can neither have negative or positive vibes because it requires more than one to have something. Since that also applies to have a shape, non-duality is formless and therefore endless. Consequently, a world of duality is an illusion. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

PART 2
Although there are many books and courses about how to realise or transform oneself, there is no evidence of anybody actually doing that. The reason is simple. The self is not a fact but a belief. Hence the change of the self is nothing but a shift of conviction.

Sometimes this change is called awakening. But since it has a beginning, it also has an end. And when it ends, the excitement you felt at the beginning cannot suppress the suffering that always comes from the assumption that you are someone definitive. Hence you try to get more awakened or whatever you believe will make you feel right. But as every belief is accompanied by doubt, you never get there.

You cannot experience something as positive without having judged something else to be negative. Thus the negative thoughts is a confirmation of the positive ones and vice versa.

When you try to exclude negativity, darkness, anger or whatever do-gooders have told you are obstacles to feel good, you destroy the foundation of duality. It is made by dividing everything into pairs like positive and negative, light and dark, anger and delight, etc. But since it takes more than one to destroy something, you also enhance the belief in duality.

This ambivalence you can either solve by playing the game of duality or undo it. You play the game of duality by perceiving your reaction to negativity as ´it is what it is.´ This perception reveals your single-minded response to negativity is dualistic. So that if you see negativity as evil, for example, it is shown as paired with good luck. However, it is not good luck that makes you feel satisfied but the interaction of that and evil. Especially, because it sets off the interplay of other pairs of duality.

You undo the game of duality by entirely including what you judge as negative. Then it cannot define positivity, which, therefore, cannot explain negativity. Read more about that in hack #3 Not being exclusive but inclusive is freedom from being someone definitive. In other words, not being exclusive but inclusive, the foundation for duality disappears. So does what you believe in being, as there is nothing definable in non-duality since that requires more than one.

Besides having fun playing the game of duality, it eventually leads to its undoing because everything with a beginning is bound to end. But that seems to take some time. Read more about that in HACK #4 When you begin to live by duality, it is going to end.

PART 4
You do not have to do something to be spiritual. On the contrary, spirituality is that which is one, and it takes more than one to do something. Besides, oneness is formless and therefore endless, so there is nothing but spirituality. In other words, if you seem to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one, you are hallucinating.

The peace you look for via mindfulness, quiet music and whatnot does not have the energy to ignite a take-off into the empty breath. Actually, it has so little energy that you probably fall asleep and mistake heaven for being in dreams.

Being angry is a terrific way to see a world where there seems to be more than one is a mirage. That is if you do not try to control the anger because when it is unbounded, it ignites a take-off into the empty breath (read more about that in hack #5.2 Uncontrolled speed leads to a state of not-knowing). In its emptiness, the experiences of something is perceived as nothing.

This does not mean you do not experience separation anymore. But that you do not perceive the apparent differences in the world to make a difference (read more about that in hack #3 Not being exclusive but inclusive is freedom from being someone definitive). Therefore, since the belief in being divided is undone, there is nothing to uphold the experience of a world where there seems to be more than one as real.


NOTE: This is article is part of hack #1.1 What and where you appear to be is make-believe.