Pretending is a way to reality

Pretending to be a special place in the world of music.

Pretending to be together in a world of music. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

It takes more than one to be something, and there is no more than that which is one since it is formless and therefore endless, so anything you believe in being is an illusion. This includes what you perceive to be spiritual. See All experiences are equally unreal.

In other words, since there is no life outside of that which is one, what you believe to be is as lifeless as the dolls in a dollhouse. Appearing to be someone definitive is make-believe. It is a fantasy in which you, like an actor, pretend to be what and where you are not.

Anything you believe in being, including being spiritual, is an illusion because it takes more than one to be something, and there is no more than that which is one. This includes believing to be spiritual. See All experiences are equally unreal.

That being said, nobody is making this fantasy. Just like within the context of a world where there seems to be more than one, nobody is making the dreams, you seem to have. And nobody, including you, is in those dreams, even though they appear to be in you.

Fortunately, pretending to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one does not seem to establish it as real, because what and you pretend to be, you are not. Thus appearing to be there seems to entail happiness and not the sadness that comes from believing to be someone there.

What you pretend to depend on what you imagine to be expected from you and what you believe to be in it for you.

As a musician, you quickly learn what you need to pretend in order to get success. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

Samples of unconsciously pretending to be someone definitive
When you look for a new home, you may imagine what kind of person who used to live in the places you see and what kind of person you would be if living there.

At work, you may pretend to be someone who fits in socially and/or professionally. But when not at work, you probably pretend to your own. And going to the disco, you most likely to be a party-goer.

If your kids are worried, you pretend everything is fine, and if they are naughty, you pretend something bad will happen.

Being attracted by the look or the vibe of someone, you pretend the other one has exactly the personality that matches yours or that you are soulmates.

Making a pass on someone, you no doubt adjust your behaviour in accordance with what seems to turn the other on so you can pretend to be the person the other one wants.

Perhaps you imagine, while you read this, what kind of person you should pretend to be if you follow Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings, or if you are opposed to that.

To recommend you pretend to be someone definitive is to advocate something, everybody already does. Thus it might be more correct to suggest being aware of it.

Maybe only your body is having sex with your spouse. You just pretend to be there, while thinking of somebody else. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

A sample of consciously pretending …
… that you may already know from your way as someone in a world where there seems to be more than one. You are having sex with your spouse, but only your body is there. You are fantasising about somebody else while you pretend to be with your spouse.

Knowing  a world where there seems to be more than one is make-believe, you have fun pretending to be there
You might be aware, that in encounters like the above, you pretend to be someone you are not. Most likely, however, you suppress that you always pretend to be what you are not – like you all the time do in a role-play, for example. And just like appearing to be someone in the world of a role-play is fun because you know it is make-believe, so is appearing to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one when you know it is fictional.

In other words, when you know the world is virtual, you know that everything – the energetic people in an advertisement for Coca-Cola, the glamourous rockstar, or the beautiful people on social media, for example – is all pretence. Thus you do not look for authenticity but the entertainment that comes from pretending to be what you are not.

To search for the truth in a game like Monopoly is meaningless. There is nothing to realise in its world, because you are not ´there´. But that you can realise. Likewise, when you believe to be in a world where there seems to be more than one.

And since you already know how to pretend to be a person in a make-believe world – just think about when you are on a dating site or social media, play a game or an air guitar – this is easy. Especially if you also keep reading Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings because they are not afraid to admit, they are just as illusionary as anything else in a world where there seems to be more than one, and thus the belief that you are someone there.

Just like it is just as illusionary to be a red or a blue car in Monopoly, for example, or how many scratches the vehicle gets. The damages are not real, and they do not change that which is. In other words, what you pretend to be, you are no, so that which is you remains unchanged, whether you pretend to be compassionate or merciless, for example. Here you can read more about not being in a game or anywhere.


It is not explainable why you experience to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one because to do so takes more than one and there is no more than that which is one since it is formless and therefore endless. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

If you are tired of the pretence and falseness, that appears to be in a world where there seems to be more than one and look for more authenticity, you deceive yourself. You would not experience to be someone if you want truthfulness.

In that case, there would be no experiences,  because that which is authentic cannot be known. It is that which is one and it takes more than one to be conscious of something.

Pretending to be what and where you are not is entertaining
It requires much control to uphold the belief that you are someone in a world where there seems to be more than one. So if you are fed up from being holed as someone definitive, you pretend to be that. It is so fun that there is no need for self-control.

Eventually, therefore, there is no belief that appears to hide there never was and never will be more than that which cannot be believed as it takes more than one to do so and it is that which is one which is formless and therefore endless.

Pretending is neither bad or good but the way to appear as someone in a make-believe world.

You may think, pretending is a bad thing, and that you better stop acting and find the real you so you can express that.

First of all: That which is you has nothing to express. It is formless and therefore endless, so so there is nothing else and no one to communicate with.

Secondly: The oneness of that which is you cannot be found in a world defined by time and space. Nothing can be found in such a world but illusions, as there is no more than the formlessness of that which is you.

Pretending is neither bad or good. It is just a tool that you use to appear where you are. You cannot be in the illusionary world of a video game, a movie, a book or a dream, but you can pretend to be there.

How you appear to be is not important when you do not believe that it is you

But whether you believe or pretend to be in the world of a book, it takes the same course. Likewise, in a world where there seems to be more than one. The difference though between believing or pretending to be there is that in the case of the latter, you feel entertained regardless of the outcome.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #1.3 Pretending to be someone definitive is liberation.

CANCELLEX Pretending is freedom from self-deception

Any interaction will do to make you seem alive as a person in the world – also if you are only looking at others. This relation confirms you to be ´there´.

Any interaction will make you appear as if you are someone definitive in a world where there seems to be more than one – also if you just observe others. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

PART 1:
As the experience of something requires more than one and that which is you is no different from that which is one, it is the belief that you are someone definitive experiencing a world defined by time and space, that hides there is no more than that which is one. Hence you have to be totally emptied out in order to not block out that which is you.

Fortunately, this is already so, because what you appear to be is nothing but empty space. In other words, there is nothing about your appearance in a world defined by time and space that needs to be changed or transformed. On the contrary, because any changes enhance the belief that you are someone definitive – and it is this belief that seems to hide there never was or will be more than that which is one.

To be free from what you are not is to not be anything at all, because it takes more than one to be something, and there is no more than that which is one, since it is formless and therefore endless.

Thus the undoing of this belief, that nobody has started is what seems to free you from what you have never been – just like within that belief system nobody causes a dream and nobody has ever been in it.

This is not about opening up or surrender to a higher power, because it takes more than one to be a higher power and there is no more than that which is one since it is formless and therefore endless. For the same reason neither is there anybody who can open up or surrender – or accept this. So if it seems so, you just pretend to be someone experiencing this, because what you pretend to be, you are not.

What´s casting a shadow is not in the shadow.

That which is casting a shadow is not in the shadow. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

PART 3:
A shadow only seems to have a life of its own due to light being blocked by something shaped in a similar way. In other words, the apparent existence of a shadow having a life of its own is an illusion. To see what is not an illusion, you must look for what the shadow reflects.

The same applies to the universe. It is a shadow – a hologram you could say. Regardless of how you experience yourself and the world that appears to be outside of you, it is make-believe.

Grasping this you are free to pretend to be any kind of person. Maybe you like to pretend to be a committed person, and so you do until you like to pretend to be a careless person or a person who loves everybody. Whatever you fancy you can pretend to be.

If you feel bad about something you seem to think, remember that thoughts are like shadows. They are not you.

By pretending to be somebody, you remain that which is you and therefore detached from what you pretend to be. A shadow is of course always attached to whatever is casting it, but that which is casting it is detached from the shadow because it is not in the shadow.

The world of shadows.

The world of shadows. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

PART 4:
Would you make love to a shadow? Probably not, it is not real and you want the real thing.

What seems to be real in a world of duality does not give you the satisfaction you want – at least only temporarily and after much hard work.

Such a world can be compared to a shadow and a shadow cannot give you anything – not even dissatisfaction, so if that is how you seem to feel, it is an imagination. All that you seem to get from a shadow is imagined, so why not choose to imagine, that you get something satisfactory.

This is possible if your choices are within the limits of the shadow – just like when pretending to be someone in a game like Monopoly you can be happy with what you have within the limits of that game, and should you lose it nothing has really happened to you. So why not give it your best shot within the game of the shadow world? You have nothing to lose. It is not real, and when it is over that which is you is all the same.

In a world of duality you cannot know what is real. But you can know, that what you appear to be is not real – and knowing that, you are free to pretend what to be and enjoy the adventurous thoughts and feelings this person appears to have.

To spell it out, do not try to be spiritual. There is no spirituality in a shadow, only in that which is casting it, namely non-duality, so have fun pretending to be that you are not spiritual while appearing to be in a world of duality and instead taste the sweetness of pretending to be what you are not.


NOTE: This article is part of hack #1.3 Pretending to be someone definitive is liberation.

Positive thinking is bullshit

In a world of duality, negativity is just as needed as positivity. A computer, for example, only functions, when connected to both the negative and positive pole in an electrical wire. Polarity is the name of the game, which you must adhere if want to be in a world of duality. Also if you wish to leave this game because you cannot do that if you are not playing it. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

PART 1
If you edit the perception of your experiences in order to hold onto a special image you have created of yourself, negative as well as positive thoughts and feelings tend to get sticky. The negative ones, after some time, bring about a constant notion of rejection and the positive ones of approval. Consequently, you avoid what you assume is going to make you feel rejected and look for something to enhance positive feelings of acceptance.

The latter most do by following a belief system that promises to make the world better a better place. But whether you become a socialist or yogi, positivity needs its buddy, negativity, to function – just like an electrical wire needs the positive pole as much as the negative one to operate.

Fortunately, feelings do not stay very long if you do not edit the perception of your experiences into something that seems to confirm you are a socialist or yogi, for example. So when thoughts and feelings pop up, they do not remain long enough to establish themselves.

Being in sync with your experiences as they are and not as they should be, therefore, feels like taking a ride in a rollercoaster. You get the polarity of going up and down, but it happens so fast that the fear of going down and the thrill of going up is forgotten right away. What is left is the feeling that you have after binge-watching your favourite TV show, namely that you are blown out. This is so overwhelming that you, eventually, forget to ask for more. Thus the belief that there is more than that which is one is undone.

In cyberspace you cannot get your hands on something physical. That is why nothing from the internet can be combined with the reality of physicality, except at a theoretically level. The same applies to spirituality. It cannot be found in a physical world. Actually, just like night and day exclude each other, so does spirituality and physicality.

So, in the context of the rollercoaster metaphor, the belief in a world of duality does not get undone by being detached from the ride, but stepping it up and take the full tour with eyes wide open and no holding back. Doing that, you may seem to boil over of hate when it goes down. But when the trip goes up again, you meet the buddy of hate, namely love. And if you did not hold back hatred, you get so much love that sooner or later there is no need for more. Hence there does appear to be anything to hide non-duality.


When you do not care about what and where you appear to be, there is no need to perceive experiences as something that attest to you being someone definitive. Thus there is nothing that seems to hide that which cannot be experienced, namely the formlessness of oneness. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

The wish for more, for example money, power, transformation and love, is the cause of suffering because there is no more than that which is one since it is formless and therefore endless. In other words, as it requires more than one to realise something, everything realised is fake.

PART 2
Those who assume they suffer from a psychosomatic disorder have projected their undesirable feelings, like sexual lust, power strivings, greed, envy and anger, onto vulnerable parts of the body, in the same way, some project offensive feelings onto the world.

But emotions are abstract so they cannot be hidden in something substantial. The projection of feelings on something, therefore, only conceals them from your awareness. Nevertheless, most believe their problems are gone when they are out of sight. Just like an ostrich, according to myth, believes danger disappears when it buries its head in the sand.

This myth, however, is not true. If an ostrich buries its heads in the sand it dies from lack of air. And you die from the lack of collaboration between positivity and negativity if you hide the latter from yourself with a head-in-the-sand approach because, in a world of duality, everything operates in pairs. Like in a wire, it is the combination of the positive and negative pole that results in electricity.

Since the basis of duality is polarity, it is obstructed when you reject negativity. And since the belief in duality cannot be undone if it is altered, you must bring back negativity in yourself, so you can acknowledge the natural flow between negativity and positivity. Doing that, as described in The YOU finger and the three ME fingers, you feel relieved years before even touching that state of mind through meditation.

If you want positivity, you must also welcome negativity, as, in a world of duality, everything comes in pairs. In non-duality, you can neither have negative or positive vibes because it requires more than one to have something. Since that also applies to have a shape, non-duality is formless and therefore endless. Consequently, a world of duality is an illusion. Photo © Alexius Jorgensen.

PART 3
Although there are lots of books and courses about how to realise or transform the self, there is no evidence of anybody having done that. The reason is simple. The self is not a fact but a belief. The change of the self, therefore, is nothing but a shift of conviction.

This change is sometimes called awakening. But since it has a beginning, it also has an end. And when it ends, you cannot use the excitement you felt at the beginning to suppress the suffering, which comes from the assumption that you are someone definitive. Hence you again try to change into something believed to be better. But as every belief is accompanied by doubt, you screw it up yourself.

You cannot experience something as positive without having judged something else to be negative. Thus the negative thoughts is a confirmation of the positive ones and vice versa.

When you try to exclude negativity, darkness, anger or whatever do-gooders judge as bad and, therefore, see as obstacles to be better, you destroy the foundation of duality because it is made by dividing everything into pairs like good and bad, positive and negative, up and down, love and hate, and so on. But since it takes more than one to destroy something, you also enhance the belief in duality.

Since there is no duality without polarity, this ambivalence is solved when you entirely include everything judged as bad because then it cannot define goodness, which, therefore, cannot explain evil. Read more about that in hack #3 Not being exclusive but inclusive is freedom from being someone definitive. In other words, not being exclusive but inclusive, the foundation for duality disappears and so does what you believe in being, as, in non-duality, there is nothing definable because that requires more than one.

PART 4
You do not have to do something to be spiritual. On the contrary, spirituality is that which is one, and it takes more than one to do something. Besides, oneness is formless and therefore endless, so there is nothing but spirituality. In other words, if you seem to be someone in a world where there seems to be more than one, you are hallucinating because there is no more than that which is one.

The peace you look for via mindfulness, quiet music and whatnot does not have the energy to ignite a take-off to the empty breath. Actually, it has so little energy that you probably fall asleep and mistake heaven for being in dreams.

Being angry is a terrific way to see a world where there seems to be more than one is a hallucination. That is if you do not try to control the anger because unbounded it ignites a take-off to the empty breath (read more about that in hack #5.2 Uncontrolled speed leads to a state of not-knowing). And its emptiness, the experiences of something is perceived as nothing.

This does not mean you do not experience separation anymore. But that you do not perceive the apparent differences in the world to make a difference (read more about that in hack #3 Not being exclusive but inclusive is freedom from being someone definitive). Since the belief in being divided, therefore, is undone, there is nothing to uphold the experience of a world where there seems to be more than one as real.


NOTE: This is article is part of hack #1.1 What and where you appear to be is make-believe.